I have been seeing this woman and we seem to be getting on well we have been out about 6 times so far. My problem is that i am 31years old and she is 20years old. now i don't know if she knows how old i am as i'v not said and i am worried that when she finds out she will no longer be interested. How many of you would be bothered by this? should i just tell her how old i am?
2006-12-15 01:39:10 · 27 answers · asked by Boney 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
age isnt an issue.im suprised shes been out with you 6 times and hasnt even asked your age! how odd is that?
2006-12-15 01:44:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Age is not an issue, so long as you are both aware of it, I am 21 and my fella is 31 and we live together so I don't hink it is at all important, She shouldn't be bothered by it, it is only a number, tell her but at a nice place like a restaurant. I am sure she knows how old you are unless you look really good for your age. Although if you have lied to her and told her you are younger than you are then thats not so OK. You should tell her straight away. If she is bothered then she is not worth it!!
2006-12-15 10:57:40 · answer #2 · answered by Budapest1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very good question. If she has gone out with you six times so far. Then there is surely more dates to come. If she was truely worried about your age, she should have asked you. She must like you for who you are, not your age. Try to work an age question into your conversation. Or tell a story like, I remember when I was 28, I .... If she truely has a problem with it, then it is surely her loss. Age should have no effect on the relationship.
2006-12-15 09:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by Angelica 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like to me age does not matter. If shes still around obviously she doesnt care! Age doesnt matter to me unless the person is like 20 or more years older than me than yeah we got a problem!! LOL! Just talk to her and ask her what she likes about u and u tell her what u like about her than maybe the ages will come and it might not matter if it does bother her, than u can always find someone who can accept u for everything u are!
2006-12-15 09:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by smile114 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If, and I say if! you have or you are falling in love, then the age difference has no importance. However, should any one of you, fall or start to fall out of love, the age thing will be given as the reason it failed. All your friends, who assured you it was ok, and behind your back mocked and ridiculed, possibly through jealousy will say. "I knew it wouldn,t last". It may even be the reason she gives to end it. This of course may not be the real reason. But it will make for an easy get out, for her. It may well be your reason for wanting out. If it,s love! keep at it, keep at being in love. Then know with confidence."Age difference" doesn,t matter.
2006-12-15 10:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you need to come out and say how old you are, if she asks of course be honest. The important thing is you enjoy spending time in each others company not how many years there are between you!
2006-12-15 10:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by Tracey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i don't think that age does matter and i would tell her because I'm sure she wouldn't really mind and she may already have realised. She might also like to go out with men who are a few years older than her.
2006-12-15 09:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by Hayley P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is only a number,and there's not much of a age difference,its what you feel for each other,there so many couples who have a far greater age difference
2006-12-15 10:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell her... At that age, you shouldn't be affected by age, but something like 20 and 13 is odd.... it is only 11 years, I know people that are married or dating at that difference or more...
2006-12-15 09:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by Beau Young 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is seven years older than I am and it doesn't bother me a bit. But you have to be open and honest about your age (if she really likes you, it won't matter) Keeping any kind of secret is the sure way to a failed relationship.
2006-12-15 09:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its fine but every now and then her age will come through in her actions and you have to make allowance's for that for as you know you are still quite a kid at 20 but i think if all happy stick with it ,,,good luck
2006-12-15 09:45:04 · answer #11 · answered by sophie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋