a one month old relationship
2006-12-15 01:37:12 · 41 answers · asked by frightened 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah its is when my girl gives me money I always pay her back.
2006-12-15 01:38:49 · answer #1 · answered by tyler d 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How much money?
Would you do it for anyone else?
Why are you giving it?
Why is he broke?
If it's a small amount THAT YOU CAN AFFORD TO PART WITH, probably.
If it's something you would do for any friend you cared about, probably
If you are giving it to be kind, and NOT because you expect ANYTHING in return (payback, love, appreciation), probably.
If he's broke b/c hejust 'ctumbled' on a hard time, probably.
Honestly, most self-respecting men aren't going to take money from their women. If this guy doesn't work, or blows his money on foolishness, keep it moving. Don't think you can 'buy' him or his love. The only think you'll buy is his sense of security knowing you'll support him financially.
2006-12-15 01:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by ICARRESS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always give from your heart, with no strings attached. If you can't afford to do it, then don't overextend yourself. The problem is, it may become a continual ritual of him needing and you giving. Have a talk about it and let him know that you do need your money back. I feel as though a month is not a long enough time for him to ask you for any money, but only you know his character and integrity. Ask yourself, "Is he an honest person? Does he show any signs of taking advantage of the kindness of someones heart?" If you are satisfied with your answers and you feel good about the decision, then yes LOAN him the money.
Hope this helps. Good luck.
2006-12-15 01:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by YaYa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it's okay.......but for a one month thing, would say NO. You don't know him that long and you should not take a chance with that. He might not pay you back and that he is broke, is his own fault. He should take care of his own money.
You are not his mother or his bank, you are his girlfriend and you love him, but you still should be care full with that.
I have been broke before and my dad gave me money, but that's my dad, but I was a lot broke. Your boyfriend is going to be broke a lot, so he is probably not going to pay you back the money and if you 2 break up, (I do not hope that happens) then you will be angry and still don't have your money.
Let him make his own money and take care of that. If you know him about a year, you might give him money....if he still needs it.
2006-12-15 01:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by DeeDee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends if he has a job, or is just a bum. A month is not a very long time to know somebody. It also depends how much money you are talking about. There is a big difference in giving someone $50 and $500. If you are on here asking this question, then you obviously have doubts, I say go with your first instinct.
2006-12-15 01:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by white.devil 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you a fool? If you are a fool than yes it is perfectly acceptable to give him money?
If you want a strong relationship than no it is not OK. The fact is it is his mommys job to take care of him, not his girlfriend. If you act like his mommy and support him you will always be his mommy. AND HE WILL NEVER FEEL LIKE A MAN WITH YOU. It will always be in the back of his head that you are stronger than him and a power struggle will occur. when he gets himself together financially he will run out and find a woman who he can feel like a man with.
Pay your own way but do not pay his way if you want the relationship to last.
2006-12-15 01:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by lovingmomhappykids 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends.. Do you mean give him $5 for gas or something to eat?? Or are we talking about 100's of dollars here.
It is ok to give him say a 5 every now and then ( Not every day or every other day) If he really needs it. But don't make a habit of it.
Now if he asking for more than that the answer is No. You will regret it.
2006-12-15 01:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by darlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends why he is broke. If he doesn't have a job and wants money to go out, I would say no. A good sign is if he is asking you for it, you need to drop him like a sack of potatoes or you will be spending the rest of your life supporting him.
If he is working hard and doesn't have money for food, then you should help him out. I wouldn't even think about asking a girl I dated for a month for money, even if I was starving!
2006-12-15 01:41:35 · answer #8 · answered by Doyle Hargraves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okay, given there is an understanding that it is not your obligation. You can give him money if and when you can/want to.
Don't make this a regular thing, otherwise it's going to get too comfortable for him. Encourage him to work or find a second job - that way he won't feel uncomfortable about having to ask you for money all the time
2006-12-15 01:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by bakerjen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if u've only been going out 4 a month. After 1 year u guys can give money.
2006-12-15 01:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by lakersfan_4life1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One month into the relationship and he's asking for money? Hell no! The only thing you should give this guy is the boot.
2006-12-15 01:42:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋