is it wrong if i don't want to spend time with my family??

Question

i've been living away from home in a for abt 10 months,im living with my sister, my actual family( mom, dad and my brother) are not here but all the aunties and uncles whom i know nothing abt are here. the thing is i don't want to speand time with them Cuz i just dont know what to talk abt with them since they r much older.so i've avoided a lot of family gatherings.i'd rather spend time with my friends or staying at home than going to my grandma's house. my sister and my mom said i shouldnt do that but i mean, i just dont feel comfortable and actually bored in family time. hanging out with friends is much more fun. am i normal? i didnt think abt it that much until lately, since it's christmas time and i still dont want to go to my grandma's house so my mom called me and asked what's wrong with me?i mean is there really anything wrong with me?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

You should really go spend time with your family. Now, you may not think you have anything to talk about, but you might have a lot of things in common with your family. You may even have cousins there that are your age. When I have family gatherings on my fathers side, I really don't want to go to those either because I see the same people all the time and we don't do much of nothing, but at least it is an opportunity that I have just in case anything goes wrong; like death, or they move out of town, or whatever; it is an opportunity that allows me to learn more about my family. Also, there is nothing wrong with you wanting to hang out with your friends, but there is something wrong when you choose your friends over your family. Friends are temporary; family is permanent. Believe me, I have been through the same situation before and it is not a good feeling. People feelings start getting hurt and relationships begin to fall apart. Not only that, but you may apply these characteristics (friends over family) to other parts of your life or other situations that may be very important. For instance, my brother, Chrys, always played video games right, but he always gave up. My father noticed this behavior and completely stop it. He made my brother play those games until he got to the end, until he defeated the whole game. Not to say that my father loved to she Chrys play games all day, but it was the meaning behind it. If Chrys gave up on something that was simple, he would give up on something that he THOUGHT was hard too. Where do you think that could apply in his future? You see, people take little things like this for granted. They think, "Oh, this ain't gone happen to me" or "I would never do that" when in actuality they are lying to themselves. Understand the reality of things: The human mind is susceptible to anything, no matter what your level of intelligence is. So, just go to the party and try to make the best of things. Like I said before, you may have more in common with those people than you think.

Answer 3

no,there is nothing wrong with you but why can't you split your time family in the afternoon and friends in the eve.you should try to have some memories w/your family.let them talk to you then you can respond.not all older people are boring or lame they like to crack a joke or two,dance.you might be surprised.any ways you know you can hook up w/friends later.enjoy dinner and open some presents. happy holidays

Answer 4

in no way, and optimistically you gave them lots of be conscious approximately your plans so as that they weren't shocked. additionally - i'm hoping the presents you supply the youngsters are what you % to furnish, no longer some thing you sense forced to do. Merry Christmas!

Answer 5

YES it is wrong you can learn a lot of good things and have a lot of good times with older more mature family members. One day you will probably look back and wish you would have spent more time with your family members when they were still alive.

Answer 6

No, it's not wrong. If you have nothing in common with them, and are not comfortable, there's no point being there.
Just tell your mom, you don't know them and you just aren't comfortable with them.

Now, for Xmas, you should go over there for a while. I wouldn't spend the entire holiday there, but there are times when you should do the right thing. Even if it's not what you want to do. That's part of being a grown up.

Answer 7

You are being selfish and anti-social. This is your FAMILY. Regardless of how close you are - they will still be your family long after your friends have moved on. How hard would it be to visit your family for gatherings, and they spend time with your friends after? One day your Grandmother, and Mother will not be on this earth - and how will you feel then?

Answer 8

suck it up and just bear two or three hours a freakin' year with your family.

I know what you're going through, I don't care to spend time with my family, but I do just a few times out of the year.

Answer 9

Yes. It is wrong. They are family. The reason you don't know them, or know what to talk about is because you avoid them. Your not comfortable with them because you chose to isolate and alienate yourself. What is wrong with you is you think more about yourself then you do other people. What's wrong with you is you place no value on family.

Answer 10

Oh my, we could be going through the same thing. I have to kids and we usely go to my grandma's and it is so boring. I am with you on that , I cannot live my whole life routine wise. I feel that if you don't want to visit you don't have to, don't forget about them though. Send them something. Hell go next year or let them come to you.

Answer 11

There is nothing wrong with you. You just don't care about people you know nothing about......no big deal !