2006-12-15 01:27:46 · 14 answers · asked by loveslave 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you care more about their personal happiness and well-being than your own, you may very well be in love. Just make sure they feel the same way.
2006-12-15 01:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by McB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a big difference between "falling in love" and "true love".
We may fall in love with someone very quickly, as a matter of impulse, chemistry, opportunity, need, etc...and this feeling is quite overwhelming and certainly can feel like "real love". There is good evidence that it is a deep "hard wired" reaction that has been around since we climbed out of the trees, and is designed to insure procreation and survival of the species.
There are two things about the "falling in love" phenomena to understand.
1. You never "fall in love" with anyone unless there is a conscious or unconscious promise of sex.
2. The intense feeling of falling in love fades and goes away. The honeymoon ends. This does not mean that "real love" will not occur, but the initial overwhelming feeling will.
The divorce statistics bear this out. People marry while "under the influence" of the falling in love phenomena, only to find incompatibility as reality sets in. Differences that were non-existent before rise to the surface as the effect fades.
So what is "real love"?
I like two definitions, one by Robert Heinlein "Love is when your own happiness depends on the happiness of another."
And one by M. Scott Peck "Love is the will to foster the spiritual growth of yourself or another human being."
I suggest reading "A Road Less Traveled" by M. Scott Peck
2006-12-15 09:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by roadlessgraveled 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you won't question if you really love the person...you'll want to spend every waking hour..minute..and second with them..they will be your everything..the one you can't live without..more or less not be around for certain amounts of time...it's a feeling that is indescribable in mere words..and sometimes hard to explain..you just know
2006-12-15 09:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parent have been married for 40 years, I asked my Dad this question and he told me that when he met Mom that he knew he loved her, but he wasn't IN LOVE with her until they married for at least 10 years!
2006-12-15 09:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by GiGi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He/she is all you think about, all you care about....that you know in your heart he/she is the only person you want to be with for the remainder of your days....that you would sacrifice your life for.
2006-12-15 09:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by AngelEyes In SF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you're feeling happy all the time, and thinking of him all the time and everything other ppl say about him doesn't really seem to matter anymore.
2006-12-15 09:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by ♀★sMiLe☆♀ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just know. when u need to eat,sleep,everything with him/her; and when forever isnt enough to be with him/her...you know. ive been with my husband for 6yrs. we got married in sept.of 05... i know that i would give my life for him if it came down to it. thats strong. good luck with it all, but when its true...you'll feel it. until then ur just wishing it was true love, but dont give in. keep going.
2006-12-15 09:34:40 · answer #7 · answered by b*stone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your willing to hang out with their mother even though she HATES you.
2006-12-15 09:31:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in know its not an answer you can relate to but you truly do just feel it ----- once experienced never forgotten
2006-12-15 09:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you do everything for him and accept him for who he is,,,Theres alot of great changes and experiences too
2006-12-15 09:30:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋