I was with one guy for about a year. He left me about a month and a half ago. He has been coming around again for the last few weeks trying to get me back. This guy and I got into a LOT of fights. Some got a little physical on both of our parts, but not bad. I was living with him and he had me move all of my things out and leave. I'm pretty sure the main reason was so he could run around and party all of the time, and his apartment became a place where people went every night to drink once I left. After I left, I met another guy who lives near me, but he's in the air force so he is not home very often- maybe once a month, and one entire month out of the summer. He is really sweet, and I'm supposed to see him over christmas. I obviously don't love him bc I've only been out with him a few times, but there is a strong interest there and we clicked really well. I'm afraid of leaving the first guy for good and regretting it.. and I'm also afraid of not giving the new guy a chance.
2006-12-15 01:21:43 · 18 answers · asked by Tara A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People from the outside can see much more clearly than the person going through the situation. Let the first guy go and see what happens with the second. If the second doesn't work out then it is for a reason and your prince charming will more than likely come along after.
2006-12-15 01:26:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, no matter how scared you might be...you gotta make a decision. The longer you leave it, the worse the situation wil get!
The ex and u obviously have unresolved issues...so if those are problems that you know you're never going to get through, forget him! The air-force guy...i think he'd be a better choice! I'm sure he's way more sensitive and understanding(subject to opinion!LOL) Another reason for going for the air-force guy...Use it to your advantage that you're only seldomly going to see him, keeping in mind you just came outta an almost-crazy relationship.
2006-12-15 01:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by Sistr P* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go back to the guy who left you!! If he left you once, he can do it again!! Find someone who respects you, and moreso find someone who respects themselves!!! The guy in the Air Force, sounds much better. Even though it will be lonely at times, at least you know that he is working towards a future, and a goal. And, that eventually it will include you!! And, he didnt just leave you, he kicked you out!! That is your security, and your home!! He didnt respect that, and his needs were more important than your feelings and your home!! Dont lose sight of that!! You deserve so much better!
2006-12-15 01:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by thelaundryfairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just from reading this.. i strongly say GO WITH THE NEW GUY!!! you know, if you fought all the time with the other guy and he also broke up with you and as well made you move out... ummm, the other guy seems to be the one to go for. even if you only get to see him a few times a month... think about how exciting it will be and how happy you will be to sede him when u do... thats good for a relationship, being gone a lot is okay... especially when you know what he's doing and this guy seems to be going in the right direction. give him a chance and ditch the loser..**good luck sweetie.
2006-12-15 01:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a crossroad in your life - a fork in the trail. Choose the right road and you'll make a nice life for yourself. The wrong branch leads only to misery.
Ask yourself this one basic question - why would you want to go back to someone you fight with? Especially when it reaches a physical level?
What you want in a relationship is love, not war. Dump the battling Belinda and go Air force.
2006-12-15 01:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to be so blunt, but your being a real dumba*s if your even slightly thinking of having anything to do with the jerk that kicked you out!!!
Even if the new guy isn't around much, and is nice, why in the world would you want the ex?
Grow up and move on
2006-12-15 01:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, you and your ex broke up for a reason. Make these guys play by your rules, don't let one hand know what the other is doing if you get my drift. Don't get all serious with either one, just see where it goes. Your ex sounds like a real prick, I don't think you should get back with him at all, as for Mr. Air Force One, take it slow.
2006-12-15 01:28:41 · answer #7 · answered by charliesangel5554 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should trust yourself and what your heart feels personally i would date the guy that i dated for that year because you dont love someone for a year then break up and just lose all those feelings and besides the guy in the airforce isisnt going to be around alot soo you wont really get to know each other.=/ i think that you should date the [year] guy and descuss that things need to change about all the fighting ♥
2006-12-15 01:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by *[Hanna]* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in guys that hit women but all the same just take your time and think things over. as for the force guy its just a matter of time you too will get know so also don't be too open but open your mind for a surprise he could be loving after-all. may god bless you and help you make a choice.
2006-12-15 01:31:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anaconda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yogi Berra is famous for sying it's not over till it's over; but it sounds like it's over for you and the first guy. I vote for you to give guy number two a chance and if for some reason that doesn't work move on to guy number three.
2006-12-18 18:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋