My ex keeps on sending me a busive messages and telling me to drop dead why would someone do this?

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My ex keeps on sending me a busive messages and telling me to drop dead why would someone do this?
i dated him for two and a half years he use to hit me when drunk...and metally abuse me and say i was fat. He says he is happy with his current girlfriend but keeps on being so abusive why would aomeone do this can any one explain. last text he sent was that he cheated on me the whole time we were to gether and got a ******** inthe toilet whilt we were at the cinema when dating. why does someone feel the need to be so abusive what motivates such behaviour? Sorry to ask twice but its really upsetting me...i did text him to say i was pregnant and he jus sent abuse back i just wanted to make peace after so much turmoil? Am i in the wrong why is he doing this?

Answer 1

I have had a similar relationship.
We broke up and now we are back together.
He can be really mean. And when he dated someone else - a lot of mean things were said. I was stupid for going back - but a lot has changed and we both needed to grow up.
Get away from this guy. HE is going make your life a living hell.
If your pregnant with his child move. get away.
If its not his - ignore him!
You are responding to him and he sends you crap.
What ar eyou thinking you are going to get back together? THats what abuse is and how it work. Go to library and get some books on it. MEntal abuse is worse. Would you rather him deck you in the face or say the things he does.
Let the new girl have him - cause he has issues. Save yourself and think about yourself and your child. Would you want someone like that around your child? What if he beats your child or calls him names? if you are not pregnant you are playing his game and maybe you deserve all the bad stuff? Get away. And there is a number youc an call- 911. Who cares if he gets mad? Would you take that off anyone else? Restraining orders are nice.
He upsets you and he knows it. Act like you dont care, eventually you will stop. Write down everything he has said or done that way you can look back and see.
Whats that saying?
If he hits you,calls you names, cheats on you, lies to you,
Shame on him the first time, shame on you the second.
Dont let him keep doing this.
He is a wussy - he hits girls. FIND A MAN. A good man.
You so sound like me, my boyfriend texted me all kinds of stuff - your fat,ugly,i hate you, who cares if you kill yourself. And I begged and begged for him to come back. Im sooooo smart huh?
Please get away fromt his guy. No contact. You can do it.
He gets his kicks from upsetting you....thats not a nice thing to do someone.

Answer 2

Change ur phone number. Stop all contacts with him. Even if he is the father of ur child, he is gonna do no good. So don't contact him for any reason. U are better off without him. Tell him that u do not want to see or hear from him again. Be very clear.

And if he abuses u again in any form, report to the POLICE. U have endured enough. Be strong and take charge. Don't be a victim.

Don't hold urself responsible for his abusive actions. He does that coz he is a jack@@@ and u permit him to abuse u by responding submissively each time. Wake up and be strong.

Answer 3

He was abusive when the two of you were together, so why would he change now. He is an abusive, insensitive, insecure idiot. You are not pregnant with his child I hope. And if you are I surely hope you will not allow him around this baby, he may hurt the child. If he continues and you really want him to stop, go to the police station and file a report for his abusive behavior. And if you are done with him, stop answering his messages, dont even read them just delete them. Very simple, he has nothing to say that you really need to hear. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 4

Well thank god you got away from this. He's probably not use to rejection and needs alittle help from your friendly neighborhood cop to quit stalking you because that's just what he's doing. And to answer your question it's obvious to me that he's not happy at all with his current girlfriend which he probably doesn't have. Because if he was he wouldn't have the time to text and abuse you. And as far as the cheating on you from what i can tell he probably done you a favor because it's less time you have to see his face and take anymore abuse. He's just not happy with hisself so he has to call someone like you to manipulate. Get your number changed and let him choke off those ugly words of a scorn man and poor loser. You've tried to make peace with him and he's so miserable he's trying to make you chime in and go there with him and please don't even give him the satisfaction. Because it sounds as if he gets off on other people's pain. Much success and happiness to you and your new baby!

Answer 5

Men like control over women, he is trying to degrade you to make you feel worthless to hurt you, it is all about control. Ignore him block his messages, do not return his calls avoid him at all cost. He is working on you in hopes the two of you will get back together. If that happens he will treat you so very badly but by the time you realize it he will have you feeling so worthless you will never leave him. Be free of him you are so much better then him. Trust me the more you stay clear of him the stronger you will become, and the less you will feel for him. That is what his fear is that is why he is trying to maintain contact with you. Stop all communication it will be for the best. Best of luck to you and your new baby.

Answer 6

You need to be on your peas and cues with this fellow. He is a sick maniac. I don't understand why he is sending you abusive messages. I would take that to the police and see what can be done about that. I don't want you to get hurt. I am also concern to hear that you are pregnant.If you are pregnant by him, you are some how time to him for life, but you don't have to deal with that turmoil. You know what I mean? Buy you a gun or something and learn how to use it. And if I were you and he tried to her me or something, I would shoot the **** up of him. Tell some of your closest family members about how he is acting. Something can be done about that.

Answer 7

He still wants to control you!! Your feelings, your thoughts and your actions. You need to break the cycle. Dont bite back!! And, dont have him involved with your baby. If he is abusive to you, what sort of message is that sending to your child? That it is ok to grow up and be with such a man? NO NEVER!! You need to just stay away. Find comfort in those around you who care for you. And, be strong. Dangerous men, like him, are like a drug. When they are good, they are really really good. But, then we open up to them, and BAM we get knocked down again!! You deserve better, believe that. And, if right now you cant, believe that your baby deserves better!!! xoxoxo Good Luck!!

Answer 8

in short because he (and i use the term to be polite) knows no better. and i guess because you let hiom get away with it, or because you get mnad at him and have a go at him about the messages.
the best advice i can give you is to report his abusive behaviour to the police, and get your number(s) changed as soon as you can. just phone your telephone provider and tell them you need to change your numbe rbecause of abusive and threatening phone calls, they should act imediately and they may need you to confirm your request in writing giving full clear concise reasons.

as for you letting him know you are pregnant, you were in the right he was not. if as i presume he is the father of the child i strongly suggest you get a group of your friends and his to sit down with you both to mediate between you to see what each of you want from the other.

I suspect however that he was just using you for sex and a punchbag.
i'm sorrry to say more fool you. the first time he hit you should have been the que for you to run screaming a few hundred miles in the opposite direction from him.
It may be best if you forget he exists and just move on. pretend you don't know who the father of the child is, as i'm guessing he is not mature enough to face the responsibility of raisng a child or being in the life of the said child.
however keep in mind that one day your child may ask who his/her father is and you will have to tell them. however try and explain clearly why the dad has been out of there life and you warn them of how abusive he was but if they want to trace him that you don't mind. but these are just my suggestion.

sweetheart you are doubting yourself when you have no reason to.
he cheated on you because he could and because he was a selfish lowlife in my opinion.

find a real man who will be there for you and who will not treat you like the brown stuff that comes out your backside (to be as polite as i can).
personally i'm 33 single and would never treat a girl the way you have been treated. it makes me sick to think how guys like that give the rest of us a bad name.

Answer 9

Its just his ego talking. Hes obviously leading a very sad life himself and feeling depressed about being dumped by you. You could change your mobile number or simply ignore his messages or block his number. Youre pregnant. Its not healthy to agonize over such
things. Forget about his selfishness. Theres no need to make peace with someone who doesnt even understand the word 'peace'.

Answer 10

Change your phone number and e-mail and it will stop. Then take him to court and get a paternity test so you can get child support when your baby is born. Move on and don't let this idiot upset you he is not worth it. Some people have a need to be abusive because it makes them feel in control.