I'm just wondering, since the person is no longer here, so what's the point? If the person knows the visitor has the heart to visit, isn't that enough?
2006-12-15 00:38:46 · 15 answers · asked by Lilliana 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
andymcj66: I most certainly have suffered the loss of someone, and someone very dear. I'm asking because I used to visit so often, but now I just think to visit would be mainly for my benefit.
2006-12-15 00:44:57 · update #1
I know it conforts the family when people visits it shows that you were loved by friends.
2006-12-15 14:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by Smiley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visiting a grave benefits the visitor. All that is in the grave is a lifeless body. The soul and spirit have gone on to another place. I visit the graves of my relatives on decoration day. I wash off the stone and place flowers there, in remembrance of them. Not as a religious thing, but for respect, to show others that someone there was remembered.
2006-12-15 08:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by RB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Going to someone’s grave has no effect on the person who is buried there. It is only for those that are living,. It helps them to greave.
You are correct that the one that was placed in the grave is no longer there, however, they are not in heaven or hell either. Read these texts,
Ecclesiastes 9:5,6
For the living know that they shall die: but the dead know not any thing, neither have they any more a reward; for the memory of them is forgotten.
Also, their love, and their hatred, and their envy, is now perished; neither have they any more a portion for ever in any thing that is done under the sun.
1 Thessalonians 4:14-18
For if we believe that Jesus died and raised again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him.
For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we, which are alive and remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep.
For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first:
Then we, which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord.
Wherefore comfort one another with these words.
Genesis 2:7
And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.
It takes two things for a man to be a “living soul” a body and the breath of life. If you take either away then you are no longer a living soul. The body goes back to the ground and the breath of life that God gave us goes back to Him. That breath of life is not our soul, remember that it takes both a body and the breath of life to make us a living soul.
Also noted in the verses above a dead person has no memory they know nothing, they cannot love etc.
Now just for a moment think about what “preachers” say at the graveside. “You parents are in heaven looking down at you and will take care of you” or something to that effect.
Does it fit with the scriptures? No it does not. Also, if Heaven is a place of happiness then would you be happy there looking down and seeing all the trouble that your friends and family go through? I would not.
In the above text you also find comfort in the fact that those who died in Christ will be raised from the grave at Christ return to meet Him in the clouds.
I have been to both my dad and mom’s grave once each, they do not know that I have been there, but I said my good byes, not for them or to them, but for me, to maybe bring me some comfort at the time.
2006-12-15 08:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by David R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. God tells us the dead will take care of the dead...go and serve the living. Why would one go to a grave? The person is gone. The body and mind has ceased to live. The soul is sleeping until the day of judgment. IF one goes to the grave to visit, they have unresloved issues. They need to talk with the living God and he will comfort them and show them his plan.
2006-12-15 08:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by Shayna 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's for the visitor. The deceased person is always with you, in your heart and in spirit. Going to a grave is our pittiful way of remembering that person's life. In reality we don't have to go to the grave to remember that person - we should remember them daily in our own lives.
Case in point, I have no idea how to get to the graves of any of my grandparents. I was young when they died, but I remember them daily for the experiences we shared in their life.
2006-12-15 08:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by I'm a ninja darnit! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Visiting a place of burial is a lot like a pilgrimage. It takes effort and helps us to concentrate and possibly connect with those who have passed on.
Being remembered is important. To me it is a part of the cycle.
2006-12-15 09:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by metoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
visiting graves is a way to mourn the loss of the dead. And realize that you are in mortality as well.
2006-12-15 08:42:40 · answer #7 · answered by apple 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like to take my girlfriend out to graveyards at night with a fifth of whiskey, get wasted and put on Nine Inch Nails' "The Downward Spiral" and make sweet love to her until the cops show up or morning, whichever comes first.
2006-12-15 08:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by enslavementality 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that it benefits the visitor
2006-12-15 08:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by buggs8498 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I take it you've never suffered a bereavement? It is to help one come to terms with the sense of loss. What motivates you to ask a question like that?
2006-12-15 08:42:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋