My boyfriend and I decided to take a break because I wasn't sure about my feelings for him. I just didn't know if I was with him because I loved him or just because I liked the fact that every girl wanted him and he was mine. Anyway while we were on a break lots of girls were interested in him. I got jealous but I wasn't sure if I wanted to get back together with him. He on the other hand still loves me and isn't gonna go out with anyone until I say it's over between us. The problem is I don't know how I feel I mean I don't really want to get back together with him but I hate seeing him with other girls. I know this is really selfish of me but I'm so confused. What's the matter with me? Do I love him or do I just want to own him?
2006-12-15 00:24:23 · 26 answers · asked by Coco 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-12-15 00:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually you've answered your own question. You said you don't want to get back together with him. That's your answer right there. You say he still loves you but you don't want to continue a relationship with him. How fair would it be to him if you were to get back with him, for him to give his all to you and you feel nothing for him?
Yeah there is some selfishness going on there. You don't want him but you don't want anyone else to have him. Tell him you don't feel the same way about him as he does about you, let him go so he can find someone who does feel the same way about him, and move on. He's not the only guy who will come into your life and you need to consider more than just your feelings.
Love is about concern for the other person's happiness. If you care anything about him at all you'll want him to be happy. He can't be happy unless you free him so he can find happiness.
2006-12-15 08:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by Arleen J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't confuse jealously and love because the two just don't mix. You have to figure out if you want him or not, forget about all the other girl and focus on him, how does he make you feel, are you happy with him, does he treat you good. Do you see yourself being with him. You have to be careful when you play with love because you can say you don't love him-hurt him-then decide that you made a mistake-but it might be ti late by then. What you need to do is evaluate your relationship, and how you felt-what you gave and received-was it enough for you. Then you can make a decision and if he does date other women then that's fine because you can date also-and find a man that can give you everything that you need-or felt was missing!
2006-12-15 14:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by moks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most of us have been in this type of situation and alot of times it's that old saying,"you don't really want him,but you don't want anyone else to have him either. But you really need to make a decision so that he can get on with his life and you the same. Because it is very selfish for you to waste his time and yours if you can't decide what you want to do. You really have to check yourself and ask is this someone you want to be with for the long haul and just follow your heart. Good Luck!
2006-12-15 08:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Soounds like you don't really want him but at the same time, you don't really want anyone else to have him either.
A fear of loss is a difficult stage but you have to be fair and let him be with someone who wants to be with him. He is not a posession that you can keep ona piece of string until you decide what you actually want.
2006-12-15 08:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your gut and be honest with yourself. You don't really want to get back with him. Let him go and tell him so. While you still may remain jealous and all you will eventually get over it. Life is too short, enjoy yourself and always follow your gut.
2006-12-15 08:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by pq4u72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just think the world revolves around you. Stop playing stupid and childish games. If you don't want him, leave him alone. You have to know that he's going to move on with someone else.
2006-12-15 08:28:24 · answer #7 · answered by Tiff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you just like him "on your arm". You really don't like him the way he deserves, right? I mean you admitted it already. Let him go, if it is meant to be at some point, then it will be. If not, you are not doing him any favors, nor yourself. You may be missing out on someone really fantastic yourself!
2006-12-15 09:16:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like love. You definitely need a break to figure out what you want - in the meantime, he should be able to date whomever he wants. Let him go!
2006-12-15 08:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a great question. Sounds to me like he cares for you and is gonna be committed until you're not, so I'd say he's a keeper.
2006-12-15 08:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by packerswes4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural, I think u r jealous seeing him with other girls
U will get over it eventually
Just take ur time
Stop thinking about ur bf
Don't u got anything else to do??
2006-12-15 08:27:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋