My personal experience was a complete turn off it's like trying to dance when both of you don't know the steps and there is no music. Did anyone go through this. Ughhh...
I was turned off fo about 5 months.
I remember this big anticipation and then ... what the hell was that? I am surprised how much people talk about sex and how boring it really is.
I quess people just settle for less. It's kind off like going to a danceclub and it's painfull to watch everybody twitch to the music, but the thought going through their minds is: hey, nobody else here knows how to dance so I look ok.
sad
2006-12-14 23:34:41 · 15 answers · asked by Jessica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sex the first time can be miserable. Especially if it is not with someone you love and trust. I've come a long way since my first sexual experience and let me tell you... It gets better! I was married to a man that did not and could not arouse me in the bedroom. I thought the same as you... "What's the big deal?" I truly could have gone without it for the rest of my life. Then... Then I met Dan. He and I fit in the bedroom like a tight leather glove. Every moment with him is WONDERFUL! I'm only telling you this because you should know that sex can be a wonderful experience and not boring at all. It just depends on your feelings for the person you are with... their feelings for you and your willingness to be open with each other. Wait for the love of your life and you'll understand what I'm talking about. Good luck and God bless!
2006-12-14 23:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You expected a great time, but were disappointed. It is like going in for an exam without preparation - what else could have happened? If only you had read up a bit on the subject, you could have enjoyed the first time. Now it is a tutn off for you. That is how sex turns out to be a bad word, and your kids in future would feel the effect of it in their upbringing.
Get to know more about it, and ensure that your partner too does before you go in for it next time. One learns and becomes better as time passes. Dont give up on one of the greatest pleasures of life so soon.
2006-12-15 07:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by greenhorn 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you were with the wrong person? If it was that terrible, then you couldn't have felt very much for that person. If intimacy isn't enjoyable for you, you probably don't care very much for the people you've been with. Both of you don't have to know exactly how to "do it right" to have good sex, you just have to have strong enough feelings for each other. If you love someone enough, just the intimacy itself can be enough. The person doesn't even have to be "good in bed". If you love them enough, being that close with them is a turn on in itself.
Maybe you should ignore what other people are saying about it and how it should feel, according to them. Don't run around having sex, trying to somehow make it enjoyable. It's not going to be enjoyable unless you're with the right person or you have enough feelings for them. Corny, I know, but honestly.....
2006-12-15 07:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Some Christian you are? No wonder your Brother doesn't want to hear anything you have to say, if you are telling the truth about being a Christian, or that you have a Brother.
Everyone, maybe you should read her last question, you will understand why I say this.
2006-12-15 08:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My BF at the time was into tongue action at the time sooooo I was freaked a bit but wound up actually peaking! we had a good six months then he moved the next guy was into sticking it in shooting and then passsing out. Nothing! I was like later for this!
2006-12-15 07:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mine was great!!! It getters alot better, as well, which is great!!! I have since found that its very different if you don't love the person though.
2006-12-15 09:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lookin at the stars 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe in you mind it was a turn off but I'll bet you coockie loved it.
2006-12-15 07:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah same thing happened with me. I didnt do it again for about a year! But then you eventually do, and you get better, and it does get really awesome once you learn how...then you wont get enough
2006-12-15 07:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by dunno 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mine was great, mystifying, but great. I was deeply in love too tho, so maybe that made a difference?
2006-12-15 07:49:17 · answer #9 · answered by Star 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wait til you really know how to do it ! it's like driving for instance, could you drive like a racing car driver first time ?
2006-12-15 07:38:41 · answer #10 · answered by Peter J 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋