I'm 58, single, disabled, on Social Security. Can I Still Find Love?

Question

I'm 58, single, disabled, on Social Security. Can I Still Find Love? I have tried the on-line dating a few times. I go to the Christian groups, because I'm from a Christian background; I don't have any success, because they all want someone who #1 isn't looking for sex (I am), or they want someone who is "financially $ecure." (rich) I don't even have the $$ for a car these days, so I have to take the bus half-way somewhere, just to get picked up for a date. Most women don't want to drive the guy. And I am so broke, I can't afford more than one "cheap date" a month. Hopefully, in tne next 6 months, that will change. Are there any real quality women out there who just want quality companionship? Or am I dreaming? I'm really a nice guy. Where did all the nice women go?

Answer 1

Listen there still are good women out there, but like anything else, the harder you look the harder it seems, so relax, enjoy your outings, with your Christian groups, join a parents without partners, I don't know if you have any children, but there are women who have children that are good women, and are looking for a sincere man, you don't have to be rich, good looking or a movie star.....just be yourself and be patient, there will be someone out there for you....I wish you lots of luck....My husband was in that predicament 8 years ago, went to every singles dance hef could find, personals in the paper, online, you name it, met approximately 40 women in 2 years, then he met me, through our children who had become friends and introduced us to each other, I only lived 200ft away from him in the same complex....he was not rich, he was balding and very nervous, because the women he met wanted hair,(unbelievable) and he had custody of three teenage boys, I fell in love with the boys, who were, like I said, my sons friends, they were and still are the most wonderful boys my son had ever befriended, I had no clue they were living with their divorced dad, until one day, his youngest and my only son decided to play matchmaker....here we are 8 years later, married 6 years, and truthfully he was looking very hard, I wasn't looking at all, because I was afraid to get involved with someone who could possibly not accept my child, therefore I shy-ed away from dating. See, things happen in the strangest way, God knows what he is doing and we don't know what we say....so, good luck to you, and don't give up, just don't look so hard, it may just be right in front of you...God Bless

Answer 2

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Answer 3

First, Social Security is Government Insurance, just like any other Insurance Company. They can & Have cut benefits from people who went back to work. What you need to do First, is talk to a Lawyer who specializes in SSI & SSDI cases. There are Rules to this Game, & you have to play by their Rules. Second, they have programs where you can Lock into your Benefits, if you find that you can't do the work, then your Benefits will resume. They also have many different Programs to retrain you to go back to work. They will even pay for you to go to school to learn a new line of work if you can't do any heavy manual labor anymore. Please, for your safety, do what I suggested in the above paragraph First, before you take what somebody else say's that they have or haven't been doing. Social Security is coming down hard on people who are Commiting Fruad. As for your $900 limit, yes you can. Anything over that limit they start deducting a dollar per dollar. You are in a position to better yourself. If I were you, I would be taking full advantage of all the Benefits that are available to further your Future Career. Don't be in a rush to go back to work unless it is a Job that will make you a Productive Member of Society.

Answer 4

There are nice girls out there. But it's just like anything else you kind of have to week through, sad but true.

What about clubs, hobbies, collections, mutual interest type things. The looking for sex thing doesn't help, most women want a relationship before sex.

What about your diability are there support groups in your area for whatever your dealing with? Maybe you could meet someone with similar issues, someone who understands your finances and would be willing just to spend time without spending money.

What about a book club? You can check out the book from the library. There are plenty of women out there who are looking for companionship.
I'm sorry can't be of more help.

Answer 5

Keep your chin up there are women out there who would love to be with you. My sister met a man about 6 months ago that has no car, no money and has disabilities. They had some rockie moments but now things are great. They are talking about saving their money to buy a house. Without a doubt you will find the right women and she will love you regardless of what you have or don't have. Be proud of you and be happy for yourself and when you are content with you the right person will come along. That is the same advice I gave my sister 6 months ago and now she is in a great relationship with a wonderful man. Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

all nice women have found nice men. for retarded ones i might write what is considered to be a "nice man" - A MAN WITH MONEY, CAREER, NICE LOOKS AND BIG PENIS. there billions of "real" and "nice" women, but u re not good for them. it's a pity that at the age of 58 u didn't even get a nice disability pension. what have u been doing all your life man? u re such a loser, i don't even feel pity for u. i know i should but i don't. and if u re a desabled why the hell do u want to find a nice, good looking woman? find someone worse looking than u, more broke than u - maybe at least this one would respect u for something - i don't know for what, maybe cos u re better that her at least in something

ps. by the way, that chubby guy gave very perfect definition of a man which is considered a good catch by women

Answer 7

Everybody can find companionship - you just need patience. My 94 year old Grandfather found love again - in a seniors' home! There's still hope for me yet!

Answer 8

people can only reflect you.Yo have to start loving yourself, love others and peopel will love to hang out with you.There is always someone for everyone.Yours is on the way coming.Don't fuss and wait patiently.For the time being you should get involved in external activities that will help you to meet girls and other people

Answer 9

Hey you , be optimist plz!
If you still want to find your love you'll achieve your purpose , cause purposeful ppl achieve everything they wants!
I think this women around you are too haughty , they don't deserve your feelings :)
Just believe in your success!

Answer 10

**** me, you 58 and u still got the heart of a 18 year old. RESPECT GRANDAD. With your heart, Paris Hilton with go with you but for that you need to save up a little. BIG UP BIGUP GRANDAD