I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months, (known her for a year and a half). She told me that I am the most important thing in her life and that she loves me. The sad thing is that she has been supported by her grandparents all of her life because her parents left her when she was a baby. She is the last person anyone would want to hurt. She is sweet and caring and I know she would never cheat on me..
Yet, when I first met her I didnt think she would be someone I would date because she was a little bit too heavy for me. We became friends however and she gradually lost most of the weight.. I then started to find her somewhat attractive and to make a long story short.. asked her out. I might have done it because I was lonely and unable to find another girl. Her weight is still a factor however.
When I am with her/ around her, I have this feeling of "Do I really want to be with her?"
She tells me that I love her too because she "sees it in my eyes".
What do I do?
2006-12-14 23:17:37 · 13 answers · asked by Dilemma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you find her weight to be a hindrance to your "loving" her then I don't think it was love in the first place that you asked her out. You may have wanted companionship or friendship but that's about it. It would be best if you just tell her that you enjoy her company. Tell her that you find her to be a truly sweet and caring etc but that you only love her as a friend. It won't be helped that she will be hurt but it's best to tell her as soon as possible. To prolong breaking up with her would only increase the chances of her being really hurt.
Love is not "I love you because you are thin". It's "I love you" with no "because" attached to it. Good luck.
2006-12-14 23:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have not given a single reason of why you dont think you want to be with her other than her weight...are you really that shallow? If you were friends before you started dating then you must like her personality and have fun with her, right? You havent been fair to her from the start if the only reason you asked her out was because you were lonely...if you dont love her, it's time to be honest, otherwise you're just messing with her head and her heart....grow some self-esteem little boy, so you can figure out how to make it in this world w/out having a girl on your arm at all times....
2006-12-14 23:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by ~LAX Mom~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My concern is does she really see it in your eyes. You can see it in someones eyes when they love you. You can also imagine that. If you really love her but it's just the weight thing you should accept her the way she is. But if you do not love her you don't need to lead her on. I know you don't want to hurt her. You have to think of it like this though. Everyone deserves to be truly loved. If your not that person for her don't hold her back from finding him. If you really don't love her staying in the relationship is unfair to the both of you and will only hurt you both.
2006-12-14 23:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by starrynight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All this made me cry a bit... You should try to realize why u dont love her or dont love her enough. You shouldnt be afraid to talk to her about it and be sincere, because if she really loves u, whe wouldnt be angry and would appreciate ur honesty, i think. U both should try to figure out what is the porblem and both of u should try to change a bit.
2006-12-19 06:02:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your very shallow why on earth are you with her shes sounds like she deserves alot better than you i cant believe youve strung her along for six months let her fall in love with you just because you were lonely do the girl a favor and leave her she'll be alot better off without you i believe in karma and you have some very bad karma due to you for the way youve treated this girl......
2006-12-14 23:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by keevy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's the hard one... but if you don't feel she is the one for you at thins time, then you should tell her the truth. I know it will hurt her very much, but are you going to wait 3 or 6 more months then doing th same thing?
2006-12-14 23:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should leave her because she deserves someone that is going to love her back she sounds like a great women and if her weight is the only thing stopping you then she needs to be with someone who is real, not superficial. there are plenty of nice guys out there
2006-12-14 23:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by jc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apart from the weight factor, you dont find any flaws in her. she is sweet and you dont want to hurt her.But talk to yourself whether you love her or not.even if there is little doubt talk to her about only being friends.
2006-12-14 23:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thts a one in a million of a chance. u dont gt such kinda girls often. dont go lookin for prettier an curvy girls cause those are the ones who most likely dump u. i thnk u should go for it . after all looks isnt everythin. thnk abt it. but i feel tht u should go fr it cause she ll keep u happy
2006-12-14 23:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by swap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with this girl. Let her know that you don't feel the way she does. It isn't fair to her to let her think otherwise. You know what they say - you have to be cruel to be kind. I think she'd rather hear the truth, than to go on thinking you have something that you don't.
2006-12-14 23:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋