How to not let your insecurities take the best of you?

Question

How to deal with constant feeling of insecurity, which repells people? How to get a grip over it and not let it be overbearing?

Answer 1

truth is my insecurities do get the best of me.
but Im trying positive self-talk.
saying "i am confident" repeatedly.
remembering my past accomplishments and qualities I like about myself.
I admit its hard. especially when its all thats constantly in my head, those crippling inferiority thoughts, and the emotions that come with them..depression, loneliness, worthlessness....
it will help if an insecure person tries thinking more positively about one's self...and so balance.
it will really help if one learns to be optimistic and have a positive attitude about one's life and self. Surround yourself w/ people who love you, appreciate you, and make you feel worthy, do the things you love, develop the things youre good at.
u may do the shame siren, like when you start thinking something negative about yourself, you imagine a siren on yout mind, so stop yourself.
or just say "NO" to your thoughts. whenever a a negative thot pops in your mind say NO!. for example "im so stupid" say "NO!" "im not stupid, infact im pretty clever/smart/intelligent..." and enumerate to yourself instances, events, exam results, etc, that prove that you are not stupid.
or "i am so fat"
"yeah, I am, BUT I can lose weight if I want to"....I am like this ____, but I can improve myself, I can change.

insecurities wont help us in achieving what we CAN achieve, even when we actually do what seems impossible...our negative thoughts hinder us.
SO it will be a great start to discard this insecurities and simply distract ourselves from them.
instead think thoughts that are helpful...actual facts...
even if its a fact, for example that you are ugly, you can still improve your appearance...and you have other qualities that you can develop, that surprasses the value of physical beauty. compassion for example. or you might not be a genius, but you have common sense and a good sense of humor...and the multiple intelligences come in. Everybody is good in something. One is not inferior to another, just DIFFERENT. and different is good, its beautiful and exciting.

good luck to you and merry christmas!

Answer 2

Anxiety is a very real mental stress point. We all can feel it. And insecurity can be a warning sign that helps us. But if it starts to get too strong, you should immediately find a qualified counselor and begin talk therapy. Medication can help a lot too. Do not minimize your situation or be in denial if getting some support would be useful to you. Get the help you need when you need it. That's how a smart and healthy person thinks.

Answer 3

We all have self-doubts occasionally. I have typed out a LONG list of the things I've accomplished over the years. Review the list of your achievements when you feel like you're getting down on yourself.

Answer 4

In particular situation if i do no longer enable pass, i will omit the proper probability to have a staggering time. i in simple terms tell myself that all and sundry has something that they had opt for to alter approximately themselves and it would desire to be worse. -alex(: HAVE a super DAY!:D

Answer 5

Realize that your perception of yourself is YOUR CHOICE. You can either dwell on the negatives or focus on the positives. Whenever I start to do the former, I remind myself:
YOUR THOUGHTS CREATE YOUR REALITY; CHOOSE THEM WISELY. Self-confident people who draw others to them focus on the positive about themselves, and reject any negative thoughts about themselves (Just replace it with a positive one!); its as simple as that. You can do it; it becomes a habit!

Answer 6

i think you should try to think about something else .

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