I was w/ a guy for 5 years had kids w/ him then I left him to be w/ a different guy. The 5 yr. relationship I was not happy at all. Now he wants to try to work things out threw consling so we can get our family back together. The other guy has been a friend of mine for 15 years we getting along good for the most part. He does nice things for me but his family including his nices come before me & my kids. I have been makeing both these guys think I'm going to work on a relationship with them. I want to choose one. I need some tips on how or what to look for in being w/ one of them not both help please?
2006-12-14 23:09:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, are you sure either one is the right man for you?? it really doesnt sound like your in love, or totally happy , with either one.... if you have children with your ex,,,, and he is willing to go to counseling,,,,, you might want to consider that,,,,,, only after it, would you be able to make a decision about him,,,,,,,, i suggest waiting,,,, not leading either man on,, letting them both know your undecided at this point, about making a commitment ,,,that is the mature thing to do, and you need maturity before you can enter any relationship in a permanent sense
2006-12-14 23:15:28 · answer #1 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go with the second guy. It appears he has some major computer repair skills. It also appears that he works from home. Because of this, he will be a better provider for you and all your babbys. The only thing the first man would be good for is keeping you warm during winter and possibly serial murder.
2016-05-24 19:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away from them both. Obviously you are settling on something vice choosing a companion because you are in love with them. Walk away and start fresh. Neither one will work out in the end.
2006-12-14 23:20:59 · answer #3 · answered by spag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids always need their father.As you said the other guy puts his family even before you.What do your kids mean to him????How much he would be able to share with you their problems,sadness or their success and happiness.Me myself I am a mother of two and I know I couldn't live with somebody who didn't care enough about me and my kids.Their father seems willing to work it out,you should give him a chance,considering he loves you and the children.Talk with him honestly about how you like your life to be and see his ideas.Good luck!
2006-12-14 23:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by vero m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do both of them a favor and pick a 3rd guy.
2006-12-14 23:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by tamumd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what your heart is telling you.
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2006-12-14 23:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋