She would never cheat on me. We are totally in love. She works a couple late nights at a hotel, and hangs out with some co-workers after work. They got her really drunk and stoned one night, passed out and freaked me out. I had the cops looking for her for about three hours until she finally woke up and called. She was totally embarressed and upset with herself. I keep telling her that i have to meet these people, because she is always going to hang out with them. If i know them I think I won't be so concerned when she is hanging out with them, and I am not around. Also, I hate it when she gets stoned (about once a week) and these guys I have been talking about provide her with it. I don't want to push her away, but want her to change her behavior. Any help would be great!!
2006-12-14 22:58:09 · 12 answers · asked by Jason 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can tell those first two sentences are more to reassure yourself than us. Do you really trust her? She's hanging out with strange guys, getting drunk and high, and not calling. What do YOU think that means?
You have to face the fact that your girlfriend may be cheating on you. Look at the situation with clearer eyes and think about what you see.
2006-12-14 23:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would never stay with a woman who got drunk or stoned with guys I didn't know. That's just my opinion.
Nice girl or not, you are just asking for trouble when you do this. Kind of like drunk driving - I'm sure the person who did it didn't MEAN to rearend that family and kill someone, but they sure set themselves up to make a mistake.
By the way - I would put $100 on it that these guys are trying to get in your girlfriend's pants. I would put another $100 on it that your girlfriend knows that. She probably loves to feel wanted, even if she doesn't do anything.
I would bail.
2006-12-18 02:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, it sounds to me like a case of 6 of one and half a dozen of the other. You can't and shouldn't try to control your girl, she can make her own decisions but she has to be answerable for them too.
You cannot dictate who she can and can't see and when she sees them but she should treat you with the same level of common decency that she would expect in your place.
Don't worry about the guys she is hanging out with, trust her or you will end up driving her away, try to place the emphasis on you worrying about her safety.
(On the same topic though, don't you feel that getting the cops involved was a little hasty? Maybe you need to also appreciate that she is a grown girl and has her life outside of your relationship to get on with too?)
2006-12-14 23:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And does she know all your friends??? Do you go out of an evening and have a few drinks??? She should be able to go out with her co-workers and have a few drinks.
2006-12-14 23:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not worry about that, because, if a girl actually love you, she will not go away from you. Except otherwise.
2006-12-14 23:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.. um almost easily. do not act jealous even with the truth that. which will annoy her.. yet heavily, txting universal and going to the flicks/dinner is undesirable. have self belief me. when I did not like my Bf, i went to the flicks with my guy chum. lol. :[
2016-10-18 07:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't she know what she is doing is wrong??if she loved you she would stop that behaviour. you have to be a bit strict with her if you are so concerned.
2006-12-14 23:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you loved her you wouldn't want to change her!
And if you trusted her you would have no reason to meet these guys.
I'm sure she's perfectly capable of looking after herself!
2006-12-14 23:03:09 · answer #8 · answered by Bob 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yess boy...u shd worry n worry a lot!!!! ur gals kinda out of control..get hold of her b4 c gets out of ur reach!!
2006-12-14 23:06:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes you should worry about that
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