He just told me i couldnt go to a friends house becuase she had two otha guy friends over, and a few girls too. Wen i asked y he didnt want me to go he said he didnt know. Is he too overprotective and wot shuld i do??
2006-12-14 22:12:58 · 13 answers · asked by retro_shine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Proctecting you from what? Sounds insecure and jealous to me ...believe me, this will only get worse if you allow it to happen..he sounds like one of those people that thinks he should be the only source of your happiness and it's just not healthy..tell him that you are going to your friend's house and he is welcome to come along...if he chooses not to go, so be it...don't be one of those girls that loses her identity because she's in a relationship..you have to stay true to yourself ...
for that jerk who answered saying"so he can find someone who will respect him"...omg .....I think you meant to say "obey"....what a load of monkeyshit...
2006-12-14 22:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by ~LAX Mom~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let this "boy Friend" know that he has not got ownership of you. You should be able to have all the friends you want and go where ever you want at this point. If you have committed in any way to him, and it is not a friendship, but a real steady, then invite him to go with you, other than that he feels like you are going there to find someone else and is jealous of you.
Some boys are very possessive if they have dated a girl only once they think they own you. Stay away from that type, you'll feel like your in prison and he won't allow you to have any Friends, male or female. He will want to know where you are all the time, who are talking to on the phone, what you and the other person said, feeling like your talking about him all the time.
Remember your not married to him!
2006-12-14 22:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by groveton_32 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds more like a control thing and if you let him control you in this way now then it will only get worse. You really need to have a heart to heart with him. If it is just a jealousy thing then he needs to get over it and you staying away from friends is not helping him. It is giving him a control over your life that he should not have. Tell him you love him but these are your friends and you want to spend time with them. Tell him you would never be unfaithful to him that he means the world to you. That will put him at ease. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-14 22:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by victoria_bell_99 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Saying you *can't* is being overly controlling. He can say he doesn't recommend it, but ultimately he should respect that the final decision is yours. You need to tell him you appreciate he wants to take care of you, but that you need to be able to have a social life.
2006-12-14 22:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by Tom :: Athier than Thou 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that wouldn't be the word I would use. I would use control. and why would you be OK with having to get permission to go to y our friends house. and why are you OK with you cant go, but I don't know why.What you should do is , listen really listen to what is being said to you.
2006-12-14 23:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds insecure - ask him why he feels that you shouldn't go over your friend's house. Good luck:)
2006-12-14 22:16:02 · answer #6 · answered by j b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt want you going because he is jealous because there are guys there my boyfriend is the same way it shows you that he really loves you and he doesnt wnt any guys faling for you because he wants to be the only one in your life
its sweet not over protective
stay home and talk to him
2006-12-15 00:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should be nice enuff to leave him so he can find a girl that doesn't wonder whether or not he's worth respecting.
2006-12-14 22:16:03 · answer #8 · answered by Red Winged Bandit 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes he's over protective and jealous. Do what you want to do. He'll just have to get over it.
2006-12-14 22:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by Rocky 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think yes, he is too Possessive for u
2006-12-14 22:26:50 · answer #10 · answered by Eccentric 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋