So many girls always ask for a ''bad boy''! Well, i got mine! About 7 weeks ago, met this guy, he's a few years older than me. At first i just thought it would be a very quick relationship...tops-1week! But it went on for a little while longer! He was so involved with drugs..i knew this but didn't think it would affect me. He became a bit too attached to me and said things like...he needed someone like me. I was quite straightfoward with him and told him he needs to re-think his life strategy cos he's the one who's going to be absolutely miserable if he throws his life away!
I'm away from home now...and i heard from a friend of mine that he's away at rehab. I think he does have feelings for me!
My problem: What will i do when/if i see him again??! How must i react?
I don't think i wanna c him again!
I know i don't have feelings for him, except friendship.
2006-12-14 21:59:28 · 16 answers · asked by Sistr P* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is great that he is going to rehab and if you had a hand in it that is great to. But if he did it for you then it won't work, he has to do it for himself. If he is doing it because you made him realize what an idiot he was being then you did your job. If you just want to be friends with him and nothing more then be straight forward and honest he does deserve that. Just remember if he starts heading down the wrong path again it is not your fault and do not let him convince you that it is. You did a wonderful thing to help him but you have no control over what he does now. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-14 22:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by victoria_bell_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most importantly - tell him the truth. Tell him you have no romantic feeling towards him. Don't say anything which will give him hope that the relationship can be revived. Make it clear that romantically your relationship is over.
It seem that destiny put you in his live's path to change him for the good, as you said, he is in rehab now. You done what was required to change his life and most probably you saved his life.
You must not now get caught by him saying that he will go back to drugs and bad habbits if you don't go back to him. It is his life, his choices, his destiny. You tell him that and rather break away from him completely than holding open the friendship avenue if he try this on you.
Good luck.
2006-12-15 06:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by Francois J V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting a 'bad boy' is a big problem of mine too! does he have a job? a car? a good home? ect.......... because if he doesn't, he might be needing to live off you and that is why he is was getting so attached to you. i think he is just in rehab to use it for his advantage. so he can throw that up in your face and be trying to get back with you. it's a good thing that you are away from home now, forget this loser!!! get a REAL bf!!!! this ex will just be lying to you saying he's changed and be sneaking around doing stuff behind you back. he does not care about you, just himself. in the end he's going to end up hurting you.
2006-12-15 06:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl,its seems that the guy may have one or more intentions to go to rehab,he may have jsut gone there to get himself back up and get soemone else other than you.its either that,or he really loves you. it depends how fast he was in rehab from the time you told him not to waste his life.less than 72 hours,and he loves you .the next tiem you see him,dotn assume that he still had the same intentions with you as he had a few weeks ago. he may be out and ready to find his life.but if he did say anything like he loves you,then its all up to you from there onwards. if you stayed adn chaged his life and yours,then he will really apreciate it,considering you built him up.adn for that ,i would have alot or respect for ya. but it depends,lay low the next time you see him,dotn pruporse anythign or give him any hints on anything. let him have the upper hand,by doing so,you'll know what his next move is.
2006-12-15 06:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by 50 cent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and tell him just what you typed here. Coming out of rehab he doesn't need to be with anyone he is suppose to stay single to work out what problems he already has, and why he started using drugs in the first place.
2006-12-15 06:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with him about your feelings as it is only fair to you and to him.
I would wait till he was out of rehab for a month and then see him and sit him down and talk to him about your feeling and say that you value his friendship but as for a romantic relationship you dont think that you can be what he needs.
Good Luck
2006-12-15 06:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by vinyl_mad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it right now if he's away at rehab you probably won't have to worry about it for a while. When he does come back, just be yourself when you see him , talk to him about his experience and how he's doing. He will probably do alot of changing at rehab, so it will be interesting to see how he is when he comes out.
2006-12-15 06:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you see him again be straight forward with him. Let him know that you have nothing more than friendship for him. You need to atleast let him know though before it gets too far involved.
2006-12-15 06:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by Mikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just act like friends if he is truely over the drugs he will go on with out you and live a perfect life with some one else
2006-12-15 06:06:30 · answer #9 · answered by dr neal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from 1 bad boy
i'm still trying 2 change 37 yrs. can do it on me own
he might need u 2 help.
u can contact me if u need
2006-12-15 06:16:01 · answer #10 · answered by kojackremodeling 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋