How do i tell my overly sensitive boyfriend of one month that i dont wanna go out with him anymore without him crying? He's a lovely guy but highly sensitive!! He never listens to anything i say and he bores me, all he ever wants to do is watch tv and hug! As i say lovely guy but just not for me. I dont wanna hurt him to much, but cant go on anymore! Any suggestions?
2006-12-14 21:45:18 · 23 answers · asked by AMG83 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can be brutally honest without completely destroying him.
Just tell him that you think he's a really great guy, but that you don't see things going anywhere past where they are right now. You like spending time with him and all, but you're looking for more than just TV watching and cuddles. You need a guy that is interested in more of the same things that you're interested in, and someone who is genuinely interested in what you have to say and can offer his point of view in exchange for yours. Right now you and him need to spend some time apart and end the relationship, and maybe after some time apart, if he's up to it, you can work on being good friends, but you don't see it going further than that at this point in time.
Be truthful, and hopefully he will take it in the spirit in which it's offered.
2006-12-14 21:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by Alberta Sunrise 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, breaking up with someone is much more difficult than being dumped. Be straight with him. Yes he'll be hurt, there's no avoiding that but just tell him that things aren't working for you. Don't get into a massive debate about it, just say your piece and leave. It's horrible but it's better than staying with someone out of sympathy. Too many people are in crap relationships because they don't want to leave and hurt the other person. Do what you need to do.
2006-12-15 06:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if he is the lovey cuddly type and you are the more out going and wanting more person, maybe you should let him catch you in the act of ebrassing your bestest girlfriend and shocking him, tell him you not sure about who you really are and you thought you liked men but really you can't hide your feelings anymore and you still want to be with your bestest girlfriend. give him a kiss on the cheek and say "you will meet someone special to one day yourself" wish him look and get on with your life, but just hope your bestest girlfriend doesn't fall for you while kissing as telling your parents you are a lesbian is harder than breaking up with Mr softy. xx
2006-12-15 07:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by theoneandonlytigster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a sensative guy my self I cant tall you that there is no way of doing this with out hurnting him, but you must put your self first. if you are not happy then you haveto be honest with him, given time I am sure he will get over it and he will be fine.
Just be cearful when you break up with him to be kind and gentle about it, do not be over critical of him.
2006-12-15 06:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by The Dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and tell him...there is no way to do it without hurting him but the longer you wait, the worse it will be. Be kind, be gentle and make a clean break...give him time to get over you. Good luck
2006-12-15 05:49:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men i truly don't know i was actually about to ask the same question cuz am in that same situation.i think what i decide is that from today i will just stop picking his calls and then i will send him a message cuz i know if i tell him to his face he will start begging and all that i will try to avoid him coming to my place from today that was what i conculded last night.Good luck
2006-12-15 05:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie, I don't have an answer. I'm going through the exact same thing-but I just wanted to let you know that I feel for you!
2006-12-15 05:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you've got genital warts and could possibly be pregnant, he'll be out the door in a shot
2006-12-15 05:50:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've gotta tell him because the longer you leave it, the harder it gets. but just tell him gently that it's just not working out and it's just not meant to be. there's no way it won't hurt him but then again, it's not supposed to make him happy is it?
2006-12-15 05:59:46 · answer #9 · answered by Pyro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is gonna be hard but you just have to go for it. He is going to be upset, there's nothing you can do about it. But he deserves for you to be honest with him. If you don't tell him now it'll just get harder and harder.
Good Luck x
2006-12-15 05:50:38 · answer #10 · answered by Jemma A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋