Is it ever ok to lie to your children??

Question

And when you answer this..Think about everything? I really want to know Is it ok to ever lie to your children? What do you think? And if there is ever a time when you think it's ok? Please explain? Would really appriciate it!

Here is the reason I ask? I wanted some honest no real reason answers!

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Answer 1

A lie might not seem important to us—but in God's eyes there is no such thing as a harmless lie. In the Old Testament, one of the Ten Commandments declares, "You shall not give false testimony against your neighbor" (Exodus 20:16). The New Testament says, "Each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor" (Ephesians 4:25).
Have you ever asked yourself what really happens when other people realize you're lying to them? The answer is obvious. Instead of thinking well of you, they look down on you and realize you can't be trusted. Instead of winning their love and respect, you end up with their scorn. The Bible says, "What a man desires is unfailing love; better to be poor than a liar" (Proverbs 19:22).
Chances are that if you lie to your children, one day they will catch you in a lie. And then you have two problems. First, your children will realize you can't be trusted all the time. Second, when you catch them in a lie and try to discipline them for lying, you will show yourself to be a hypocrite. Honesty is always the best policy.

If you have never given your life to Christ, do so today. Begin a new life today by giving your life to Christ and asking Him to come into your heart. Then ask Him to watch over your tongue and help you always speak the truth.

Answer 2

That is one thing I really dislike the most is being lied to. unless it's the kind of a lie that only does good for the other person and no one else is hurt out of it, the kind of lie that may save a life, or to protect the innocent, only if and when necessary.

Some people and children specially if they know you, know when you are either lie or acting differently, they are sensitive, they have the sense to read your actions, expressions, basically our auras, display the feelings, emotions or our souls. I know this is true because I am one that can do this, usually I know if someone is dishonest, by reading their expressions, even from a far, I know some of what they are thinking, their thoughts. Even if you lie to your child, they tend to trust you, but are hurt when they find out later that you weren't sincere.

I know as a child in school, the teacher ask a question, "who here believes Santa, raise your hand", I was the only one. It was embarrassing.

Good luck:)

Answer 3

As a Parent & Now a Christian, I think a parent should not lie to their children. When I was younger & not a Christian, I keep mostly good moral values, But I was not a Christian when My 1st daughter was born, & I was a very young Christian when my second daughter was born. I am now a grand- dad 9 times over. I don't intervere with my childrens life & how to raise their family, Unless I knew there was undo abuse & then I would say something. Both of my daughters knows what daddy brought them up in, Their Mother is deceased, I am remarried. Still I keep my nose where it belongs, Because now my kids are telling me Dad, I remember when you said so & so, Now I know what you meant. Why do they remember. They are going through it themselves now with their teen-age childrens. And let me add, I get long with My step daughters, as if they were my own chidren, & on Birthdays, I try to be fair & equal with how much money to give them, I don't give my own 2 kids more that I do my 2 tep-dughters.

Answer 4

My son is 7 and I don't lie to him because I feel that he will find out one day and I think it is better for him to know the truth sooner than later. There are, however, things that I try to keep from him that I feel he is still too young for. As he gets older though the more I allow him to know. I think I am educating him on society by doing this. He is very curious and actually understands what I tell him. My mom didn't give me a truthful childhood and that is why I don't keep things from him. I don't want him to question everything in life like I have and still do.

Answer 5

This is a really personal choice, and I'm loathe to say that one route is better than another.

For me, the most important thing would be for my kids to know that they could trust me to tell them the truth. For my parents, the most important thing was to make sure I experienced a real childhood (not a small concern for a mother who had been orphaned at the age of 8).

When I did stop believing in Santa Claus, I remember thinking that it was a weird thing for my parents to have said, and then didn't think about it any more.

Bottom line is that you know your kids better than anyone on this board. Do what you think is right, and they'll be fine either way.

Merry Christmas

Answer 6

Practice what you would preach I'd say.Lie to them only after accepting the fact that someday they will lie back to you but if you bring up your child to tell the truth always and lead by example then you really have nothing to fear because you will have instilled in them the virtue of truth.Should they ever lie the burden of guilt will force them to come clean.As a parent it is never easy and not all situations are always communicable but there is always a way we just have to work our way through it and find that way so we can stand by the stand we take to never lie to our kids and making honest people out of them.After all isn't that all parents job to do just that.Children only learn and follow what they see and are taught.peace.Riz>...

Answer 7

Santa Claus
the tooth fairy
Easter Bunny
Need I say more. It's okay to let them expand their imaginations. To believe!
Outside of that you limit what you tell them to the age appropriateness of the child.
For example when my daughter was little she didn't want to be a flower girl. She has somehow come to believe that if a boy and girl danced together she would have a baby.
She seen my sister in law dancing with her husband and then a while later my sister in law had a baby.
So I had to explain that's not how you have babies.
She wanted to know how you have a baby. AT four I didn't feel she was ready for the birds and bees talk so I told her that when someone wants to have a baby they ask god and god gives them a baby. It satisfied her question and she never called me a liar over it unlike Santa Claus.

Answer 8

Mandy, I do not have time to answer this fully right now but I will get back to it to do so.

I would dare to say if anyone said they have never lied to their kids, they would be a liar in saying that but we also need to remember that what some call lies are actually mistakes or things beyond our control. If I told my kids I would take them to the park and I spent that day in an emergeny room, they may think I lied to them but did I? Often we can be mistaken and find out later but that is not a lie...it is however something we should be man or woman enough to say...my child..I was wrong...forgive me

Answer 9

i think of there is giving age ideal solutions and then there is flat out mendacity to them. a good occasion is the classic "the place do babies come from?" Your answer to a three 12 months previous is incredibly distinctive than the single you will provide a 12 12 months previous. i think of honesty is generally the final coverage, yet you do no longer would desire to proportion each little thing. you do no longer inevitably would desire to tell your newborn which you tried pot or smoked in case you do no longer opt for to. you do no longer owe it on your little ones to proportion in case you had an abortion or what proportion sexual companions you have had. the place you stand on the full santa/the tooth fairy element is truthfully as much as you. Is it a threat loose fiction or a merciless lie?

Answer 10

I'm trying very hard to be honest with my 13 1/2 & always stress the importance of saying the truth. You must provide the best personal example for your kids. What values are important to you. Would you like one day the kids liying to you.
Personally I'm against having to lie to anyone, especialy to inocent & naive kids.