2006-12-14 21:38:39 · 33 answers · asked by tony b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Women ..Eh! you cant win with them - they always assume you want into their knickers..when you give them a compliment... My wife is a cheeky bint - nowadays if I tell her - your hair is nice or you look lovely today ...she turns round and bends over & says hurry up!! whats that all about ? Its just better to give them a quick smile.. and say nothing..
2006-12-14 21:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think half of the problem is that so many women have very low self esteem. We are all brought up trying to aspire to super model looks and never feel quite good enough. Couple that with peer pressure on how you should look and nobody conforms making many young women very unhappy with the way they look.
When you have all that, and someone compliments you, it makes you think that they are taking the piss. If you are giving a compliment, make sure you mean it and its from the heart. Don't over do it as she will feel uncomfortable. And even if it appears as though she doesn't accept it, she will remember it and will probably have a smile to herself when your not about.
2006-12-14 21:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by Scottish Girl 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't compliment strangers, only the people I know well, but I would suggest that perhaps ladies and maybe people in general are less trusting these days.
2006-12-14 23:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can be many things
now in society, many women have gone through some sort of verbal harrassment of looking good and such in the streets, and it could be why some dont accept compliments. it could be they never received any while growing up and not use to it, or some women just feel emotional depressed. many things, and these are just a few
2006-12-14 21:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure about everyone else...but for me personally it is because i havent had a serious compliment in soo long that. when men compliment me these days i take it with a pinch of salt and dont really believe them!
Plus most men that compliment these days are usually only after one thing and that puts me off even listening to them!
2006-12-14 22:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I always get really embarressed when ppl compliment me, as i don't really have a very high opinion of myself. I think they are just saying it to be nice. Secretly it does cheer me up a bit tho if I'm having a bad day. I think alot of women fell the same so don't stop just cos she says so, she doesn't really want you to. lol.
2006-12-14 21:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by Jemma A 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
They are tired of flat one liners like 'you are a pretty' or 'you have a nice smile', etc.. It doesn't seem genuine nowadays or they haven't heard a creative one in a long time.
They also wonder about if there is a genuine interest or a more physical motive.
2006-12-14 23:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by joe19 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all. if u just met a girl. NEVER compliment on her looks.
it says all the wrong things.
It says, "Hey i dont really know u that well, but if i give u a compliment on how hot u r, then maybe it will get u to like me and we could get married."
your pretty much telling the girl that u want her, even though she did nothing. hell, if she treated u like crap, u would probly still want her.
Next time, try complimenting girls on their unique quality's, after you find out what they are.
Example:
Her: [Tells an amazing story about how she loves to go hiking]
YOU: "i love how your so passionate about what u do. your like an adventure girl. i like that about you."
HER: [smiles]
be genuine.
2006-12-14 22:04:43 · answer #8 · answered by roberto3331 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't generalize...A real lady knows how to accept a compliment graciously. But I assume you are mannered enough to know how to deliver one and not make it sound like a come-on, am I correct?
2006-12-14 21:42:32 · answer #9 · answered by jesshispet 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Try a more humble approach, don't say everything at once, compliment their over all beauty like "You look amazing today" instaed of your eyes look beautiful, and your smile and... that's comes off bad. Just summarize it up. You'll do better at it. Some people just don't respond well to compliments too, so that may be it. Take care!
2006-12-14 21:43:51 · answer #10 · answered by zelin 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
They're getting hard to swallow because some "Nut" in the past, used those same words and was far less than honest about his true intentions. Flattery will get you nowhere? Elaborate and deliberate lies have hardened a many women's' heart. Honest, unrehearsed, stuttering is far more impressive. Most of us love men that are clumsy with their words cause they seem the most genuine.
2006-12-14 21:45:08 · answer #11 · answered by Talia Hart 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋