i just want to stop cutting myself and tell someone but i cant. everytime i go to a counsellor i freeze up and make someother stuff up, i really do not want to and refuse to see a therapist/counsellor. How can i stop im scared and hate myself for it.
2006-12-14 21:28:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Its hard but please tell the counsellor your a cutter. Mine guessed when she saw me wearing long sleeve shirts all of a sudden.
Im amazed that someone is proud of their scars. I don't like them and wish I hadn't started.
But I started because I had a mum who wouldn't listen really listen to me. She had bad coping skills and passed them onto me. I had no idea of course when I was younger. But now I've moved out of home I understand now.
Cutting proved to be a huge release for me. It made my anger disappear, it calmed for awhile till another thing would build it again. Fight with mum for example. Over her still treating me like a little girl I was 18yrs old.
The good news is I did stop and it is possible. You need to find another release for whatever is causing you to pent up all these feelings and then cut yourself.
Instead of cutting try what I tried somedays it worked other days it didn't. Write what your feeling. Get a blank scrap book and write. Use different colours....draw what your feeling. If its an all black picture than it is an all black picture. Just get it out.
By not getting it out is what causes you to cut. I been there like all these other people we know and support your efforts to stop. Just asking the question on how to stop shows us you would like to stop. And that you recognise you have a problem sweetie.
We are here to help. Huge hugs to you!! Big first step in asking for help.
tania.s
2006-12-14 23:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by Tania S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I have been in a similiar situation to you and i understand how hard it can be. Obviously you do want to recover or else you wouldnt be looking for help so at least youve taken the first step. I really think that you would benifit from seeing a psychologist but if you really dont want to do that then obviously trying something is better than nothing. I think the first step you need to do is through out your razors or what ever your using to cut yourself. This was the hardest step for me as it was kind of seperating my self from what i loved and hated and the same time. Maybe you could write down all the things about cutting yourself that you hate and read it over once a day to remind yourself. There are lots of online forums and things for self harm recovery that you can use for advise but nothing will really be able to help you in the way you want it to. If you really do want to stop then you just have to stop. As lame as it sounds try counting to ten when you have feelings like this. Or think of the feelings you have after youve cut and use this as a reason not to. I no its really hard but lots have people do over come it and you can to. Just remember that your not alone. I just hope you stop sooner rather than later so you dont have to look at your fading scars and realise the mistakes you made. GOOD LUCK i wish you all the best and email me if you want any further advice because id be happy to help!
2016-03-29 08:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you can stop is to get to the root of the problem that is making you do this. The only way you can do this is through therapy. You need to deal with the problem that causes the feelings to make you cut yourself. Yes, this is going to be a very difficult step. You have to be honest with yourself and open up to a therapist. If you don't you will never get better. Do this for yourself so you can start loving yourself and put an end to self destruction. I am sure you are a good person and have wonderful qualities about you.... you just need to see it and believe in yourself. My heart goes out to you....I will be praying for you. Please get the help you need and open up so someone can help you through this process.
2006-12-14 21:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by Torrie 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First you have to stop hating yourself it only perpetuates the problem. It's hard to stop when it's the only way you know how to cope with stress or pain.I tried to stop for several years before I was able to. Figure out why you do it, I did it because I have an underlying mental condition (obsessive compulsive disorder) which caused me to have violent thoughts and worry that I might try to hurt someone. I cut myself thinking that I could get it out of my system. Once I realized that I didn't need to do it, I stopped.
There is probably something that triggers your cutting.the best way to figure that out is to write down how you feel and why you feel that way (what happened that day) when you feel like cutting yourself. Write before, sometimes it makes you not feel like you need to anymore. If you still cut yourself please make sure you don't do something to permanently injure yourself, many cutters get infections and serious injuries because they cut too deep or with unsanitary instruments. Make sure to keep injuries clean and see a doctor if you think you need to.
2006-12-14 23:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by April C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to someone. If you don't feel ready to talk to a therapist that's okay. Maybe try talking to a good friend or family member. If that works out then it might help having your friend go with you for support to see the therapist. There's also lots of online forums with people going through the same thing or people who have made it through to talk to. That alone might help to know you're definitely not alone.
2006-12-14 21:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't therapy that enabled me to stop. It was me taking a look at myself and thinking "do I want to carry the label 'cutter' with me for my whole life?". I decided I wanted to do something about it, and made a concerted effort to stop. It was difficult, but I did it. Surround yourself with supportive and trustworthy people who will be there for you when you need someone. Make time to do something you enjoy and will make you happy, like horse-riding or going to the cinema, or out for a meal. Don't be down on yourself if you do slip up, just accept it as a slip up and move on. Stay strong. I managed to stop after 12 years, so as long as you really want to, you can do it. God bless.
2006-12-14 22:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
right a note saying all the stuff you cant to get you started and take it to your therapist, then its out and you might aswell carry on, there is no need to be embarrased about it, im proud of my scars cos they show i stopped, i wear them proudly cos i quit
2006-12-14 21:39:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
go to a doctor soon, my daughter did this also, we took her to someone to talk to and she stopped within 3 months
2006-12-14 22:14:11 · answer #8 · answered by katwoman65_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋