My bf was telling me about his sister and then he said something about not to email or talk to her. Well, I thought he was kinda joking (he says he said it very seriously) so I messaged her just to say hi or whatever. Then his sister came up again a few weeks later and he became adamant about how if I ever talk to her he will get VERY MAD. His reasoning was because he didn't want me telling her things that she's too young to hear (when really she's not that young...I think she's starting college next year). Anyways, after he told me that I messaged her again and told her my bf doesn't want me talking to her so I can't talk to her anymore. Well today I told my bf all of this because I felt like I was lying to him by not telling him. He blew up and isn't really talking to me. He's acting like I slept with another guy or something. His reasoning is not just that I talked to her, but apparently I disregarded him when he told me not to talk to her. I don't know how to make him forgive me.
2006-12-14 20:48:31 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, first off, I'm a little confused as to this "over-protectiveness" of his sister. My "creepy" alarm is going off on this one.
However, it is not my place to judge... I am merely a cricket...
First, one must give men time to cool off (very few women realize this fully).......then, you will be able to have a rational conversation with him. If he truly loves you, you will be forgiven. If he does not, or there is really something creepy going on, then you likely will not.
2006-12-14 20:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has some strange, but obviously very important reason for not wanting you to talk to his sister. Tell him that you are sorry. That you had no idea how important this was to him. Tell him that you will not disregard his wishes in the future, you'll definitely ask him atleast if you're uncertain. Then, hopefully he gets over it.
ALSO, this sounds very suspicious. There may be more to this, it may or may not be important. Digging with him is obviously not going to work, and his sister is, of course, off limits. But i would be a little cautious. .... Do you really want to date someone who flies of the handle over something you can't imagine is so important? You're going to have to answer that for yourself with this guy.
2006-12-15 04:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by jamisojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs some time to do that, but don't keep quiet for long cos it might push him farther away. Try and explain things to him and don't forget to use "I'm sorry" it goes a long way. Again, stay away from the sister till the storm is over.
Send him some text messages and appology cards explaining how sorry u are for disregarding his orders......u know men and their ego. If he loves u, he will surely calm down.
Good luck.
2006-12-15 04:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to apologise to both him and her.Whats wrong with this picture?Is there really any real reason why he doesn't want you talking to her?Could it be a preventative reason on his side?What has his sister done to his relationships in the past or is he just too overprotective?The only way you're going to find out is if you ask him...
Goodluck...
2006-12-15 05:01:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
purely a fantatical event in infactualtion & not love, and is common to when this type of situations arise, its good that u had spoken truth and wish the other person equally respond with the same emotions you carry, well sometimes opposite sex might not be so comfortable to discuss nor share nor trust and easy to fake things. so be patient and appreciate that things will sort when you discuss in an romantic atmosphere with mutual consensus to hear each other, not in a repressive closed mind of not hearing others, so you time to make uppp, run, ,,,,, shower ,,,, get readyyy,,,,,,, buzz the phone.,,,, expore,,,,,,... recreate.... come out,,, ,,,,, and make up....... and don't forget to mail me
have a nice day
regards
balaji
2006-12-15 04:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by Highwayman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you tell her he doesn't want you talking to her? to make him look bad? cuz thats what you did. Anyways do that thing that he likes, you know what im talking about, n when you're done tell him your sorry again. it'll work trust me. oh and another thing. i have a girl cousin, 1 year younger than me, and i tell my g/f's not to talk to her so she doesn't tell them things they don't need to know. (somebody's hiding something)
2006-12-15 05:05:36 · answer #6 · answered by BRN305 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say "sorry" to him....Im sure he will forgice you..... Or make some sweet acts towards him.....Or give him somehing that can make him happy....Its easy....
If he doesnt forgive you, You better break up...
True love never hates and love forgives...
2006-12-15 04:53:53 · answer #7 · answered by Beautiful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear
who is he to stop you to talk to someone ?
my husband used to ask me also not to talk to his friends
because in fact he was saying wrong things about me to them
and finaly i come to know he get married with a second wife from one of his friends
and he was saying to him that we are separate
and he was saying to me that he loves me so much and that he is so much fidel
so from my experience i thing i better talk to everyone and never follow the forbidden of talking of a crazy lier
hope you find a gentle harted boyfriend who will respect you
2006-12-15 04:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
expalin your position to hm.like it is not ok for you to get mad at her sis just cos he said so.you have your own rights you know. Then give him time to heal and forgive you.
2006-12-15 04:55:30 · answer #9 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cannot make someone forgive you. They must chose to forgive you and be merciful. You cannot buy love or bargain with it. Love is unconditional. ;)
2006-12-15 05:00:00 · answer #10 · answered by reme14u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋