I'm good friends of her family and I'm happily married. We don't really have anything in common. But for some reason I keep thinking of her, over and over for the last 5 years or more! It's driving me crazy.
2006-12-14 20:17:34 · 20 answers · asked by macroscope 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Something that's .....just out-of-reach....is so much more interesting to us....You seem to be having a healthy,normal fantasy about this person.(in my opinion,anyway) Just remember that most fantasies are always better and on-demand if they stay fantasies.You shouldn't feel guilty as long as you keep it strictly -your fantasy.And....speaking from personal experience; you'll always "wonder" but it'll fade in and out....(hope i helped ; )
2006-12-14 20:35:20 · answer #1 · answered by Terra Antares 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Spend time with your wife, and begin to look at her differently. Notice all the things you love about her, think back to all the fun and funny times you've had together, think about all the sweet things she's done for you, think about the first kiss, the first time you said i love you, the wedding, the proposal, think off all the cute things she does, think of the reasons you liked her so much to begin with, think about what attracted you to her, think about your first conversation. The list goes on and on, but you get the idea. Everytime you think about this other woman, force yourself to remember all these fun times with your wife. Also, make it a point to try to build the romance in your relationship with your wife even more. Do things you haven't done in years, or things you've never done. By doing this, you will have no time to think about the other girl, because you will be focusing 100% on your wife, and also making your relationship with her better, so there would be no need to even think about the girl. realize that you have the best, and think of the other girl as a girl that will never be as good for you as your wife and couldn't never compare. Good luck!
2006-12-14 20:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by Andii 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same problem right now... Only I am not married, but have been dating someone for 2 years. A group of us has been friends for 10 years & I always had a huge crush on one of them. We lost contact for a few years, but have been in contact for the last 3 or so & I have drempt of him often... Sorry to talk about myself... What I should have said is when you find out, let me know! :)
2006-12-14 20:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if I was your mom, I'd tell you to let the love die out by involving yourself in some healthy interests/sports that'll benefit you.
But!
I'm not your mom.
So here's what I usually do. Bourbon. On rocks. And a shitload of other candidates who are available. If symptoms aren't cured in 15 minutes, you need a stronger doze which equals to more bourbon... And more candidates. ^-~
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Oh, and don't forget to go to your wife the next day and give her a big hug. Even if you will be suffering from the world's worst hangover.
2006-12-14 20:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by Diamond 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i doubt you're happily married if you're letting a woman like that occupy your mind. why don't you make love to your wife or do something romantic with her? you may want to reevaluate your marriage if you've been thinking about another woman for 5 years, that is a bit like cheating.
2006-12-14 20:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by coochie1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find the better things that your partner has that she doesnt, find excuse to make her badder and your spouse better...
spending more time with your spouse would also be a good idea, make her happy and you'll feel just as happy...
feel lucky and wish things you have, not things you dont have...
think how hurt you'll be if your wife were thinking about anothre guy? wouldnt that just kill you...
also, snap back to reality...see that its waaaay better...
2006-12-14 20:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by rhea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey..
Sweety it's going to tkae alot of time, i have also had a similar situation, only difference is that i am single, but i have a boyfriend know, anyhow, i still think of my ex which was a total *** towards me, but i do miss the good memories, but even though i was with him, i was thinking of my one very dear friend, we have been friends for 16years, first love so to speak... i did think of him alot untill now, i am happy with my current boyfriend, so i do not miss him anymore...
I think it is just a matter of finding someone really special and they make you so happy...and i cant explain.
I wish i could help you, coz i know it is crappy..
Goodluck!
2006-12-14 20:24:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another girl to distract you for a while. Delete her number and do not toy with the idea as it is only a form of self torture.
2006-12-14 20:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by Deelicious 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
always the same i loved someone for 3 years and she wasnt out of my mind after i found someone else u r saying u r married do somthing!!!!!!find someone else you will forget your feelings about her trust me ive been throgh this once
2006-12-14 20:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on your wife and family.
2006-12-14 20:42:53 · answer #10 · answered by calieyecandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋