what would you do in this situation as a parent?

Question

ok so i read that someone asked a psychologist this question?

if your 7 yr old son and 6 yr old female cousin would go into room, lock the door and strip to explore the differences between the male and female body. of course it is not sexual, but would you stop it or not? or would you encourage a franker discussion with you there?

stay tune for for the child psychologist's answer!

woot rate me!

to: the dude that said the prob lies with me
if you know what the psychologist said then you might realize why i wanted to ask this question (damn it, i gave away the answer)

wtf, my son?

lesley c are you telling them to masturbate!!!???

daft one: omg national geographic has naked people? or are you saying to get a porn mag!?!?

okay the psychologist actually said that it didn't matter as long as they weren't obsessed with it. they also suggest things like massages and such could curb there curiousity, and help create frank discussion about it.

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Answer 1

If this situation had descended me after this situation I sought to talk him frankly for this situation.(I'd be interrupt them so that you don't know what will be happen I don't want to predict a delicate point for this situation as well as he would be harm her unwittingly) And I have to get it that after the negotiation he have to aquire adequate information from me as well as he have to aquire gratification from the negotiation.I don't want that my child will learn the sensitive points from someone rather than me.I'd not be encourage him for this situation after the conversation.
He maybe inferred from this situation that what the girls diffirences.Even though as I said this would be pose unpredictable situation unwittingly.So that if you see this kind of situation you'd be interrupt them so that you never know always what will be happen.

Answer 2

I would stop it and NOT ALLOW this to happen. Just because these babies are curious does not mean that they are allowed to stare at each other's naked bodies. It's wrong and just plain ol weird to do such a thing.

Here is an alternative: Allow these babies to look at a magazine where they can view naked people in a NON SEXUAL way, such as National Geographic. Show them that a woman has breasts, and a man has a penis..

yes they are different and they are interested in the differences, but cousins don't need to be looking at each other!

Answer 3

It is normal for young children to have curiosites about the opp sex but there should be a limit. Now a days childern learn about sex early. By 10 they came to know about and realize sex by various means, peers / internet etc.. Just imagine what the boy and girl would be carrying memories when they grow up and come to know about sex in detail. Then it may lead to relations b/w them.

It is best to stop this any further, with a franker discussion.

Answer 4

My son who is seven and his cousin who was seven at the time too done the same thing.
I just spoke to them calmly and said I relize that you two have differant bodies. They agreed of course. But I did tell them that under no circumstances should they be looking, touching each other as there privates are there business. And that if they want to know about the boy and girl bodies that we would get a book and read togethor. Also I said that we are family and family dont so that kind of thing.
I think its important that you speak to your children about there bodies and tell them its okay to explore there own bodies just them, that there body is special ONLY to themselves and under NO circumstances should anyone be allowed to touch or look at them naked. Thats just what I said in a roundabout way lovie.

Answer 5

Your 7 yr old son and 6 yr old female cousin to explore the differences between the male and female body.

They are too young to understand or was it you yourself who wanted
that psychologist's answer urself when you were young.

what are you thinking of when you are asking that question?

the problem lies in yourself and not 7 yr old son or 6 yr old female cousin...

Answer 6

Definately i would stop it i mean what are they doing stripping in front of eachother,and where do they get stripping from? If it happens once then its ok because their exploring but if it happens all the time then thats when you neend to put an end to it

Answer 7

while it's perfectly normal to explore sexuality even as a child you should let them know that it should be done in private and alone. Just don't make them feel dirty about it at all, and make it seem as normal as possible and that you are not shocked or disgusted one bit. Play time with private parts is for private time as well, just tell them that. And that they are not alone in doing this.

Answer 8

Personally, I would stop it. This is for a bunch of reasons. First off they are family. Shouldn't be done. Secondly, they are too young to be trying to explore this. Get them to stop immediately.

Answer 9

I would stop it and then discuss it with them both

There must be a consequence for their actions:

- If you DONT stop it or say anything the children will think its ok and continue (Negative reinforcement).

- A simple chat to inform them what is appropriate and what is not will suffice (if youre chat is condusive enough for them to understand) (Positive reinforcement)

Answer 10

without making them feel ashamed (curiosity is natural) I'd use it as an opportunity to explain that those body parts are private and to be reserved for intimacy and love, not shared indiscriminately. this, of course, to kids who know where babies come from.
it's a good, non-scary way, too, to make them aware that it's not okay for anyone to take advantage of them sexually.