Now, my ex came by last night and talked about she loves me and wants another chance and things of that nature. Now i told her that I am bothered that her... "friend" has a myspace page and says they are dating and everything like that. Is it wrong for me to tell her not to call me until that page is changed? I mean it is hard for me to believe they are not dating if she wont make him change his page
2006-12-14 19:55:26 · 13 answers · asked by lost_93710 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she says they are not dating.... she said she is attracted to him. but not attracted enough to do anyhting. And of course we kissed and everything last night. no sex. But... She is at his house chillin last night and right now. So if she wants this I think that is a good way to show it.. .what do yall think
2006-12-14 19:59:30 · update #1
Can't really make that call for ya, everyone has different values, opinions, etc. concerning relationships, and the "right" thing to do in them is entirely subjective, but I can tell you what I would do, given the same circumstances:
There's little to nothing she could do, to force this friend of hers to change that. I wouldn't hold his actions, specifically, against her. However, it's understandable that it makes you uncomfortable that she would willingly associate with someone who would insist on making a claim like that. I'd say, "Tell him to stop it, and accept that he and you are not dating (if that is, in fact, the case). If he won't, please stay away from him, to the extent that it is possible. Otherwise, I will not be with you."
You are not free to tell her what to do. But you are free to choose what you do, and you have every right to set the criteria that determines whether or not, and how, you will interact with her.
2006-12-14 20:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by Master Maverick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You won't like this but yes it is wrong. The reason it is wrong is that you can't expect her to MAKE HIM do anything. If he says no, what can she do??
If she wants you back then she must make the commitment to you. You would be perfectly justified in saying that you have concerns about their relationship and that until that is done with you can't give it a shot. If she shows you that her heart is with you and that this 'friend' is out of the picture by committing to you and removing said 'friend' from the equation, then what does it matter if this friend can't take the hint?
He can say he is dating Angelina Jolie on his myspace if he wants, if you know it isn't true, then what do you care.?
2006-12-15 04:05:09 · answer #2 · answered by jaynic72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it was not wrong for you to say this.
If you want to, you can give her a second chance. But you got to know, she may not able to make this guy change his myspace. What if that guy's just bluffing and tauting you that he'll snatch your ex?
You should find out if they are dating or not by yourself. Then you can decide what to do.
2006-12-15 04:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by Este 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u did the right thing i probably would have been harsher its not right
and if she really feels that way about u she will go F@#$ that guy up and delete that page all together but if she doesnt get it changed then u got sumthing 2 worry about . she is lying to u
2006-12-15 04:01:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to find out whether she is in this relationship or not. You need to have more time to know this. Take your time and see how things are going with her. You don't have to rush into any thing until you knew all about this. Wait and see. you will soon get into the truth.
Good Luck!!
2006-12-15 04:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a little confused but then I always am...It really depends on what he or she has said on my space isn't it. Try to trust your intuition. I f you feel like that he or she is cheating then they probably are...especially when they advertise it...I guess if they take it down...What? They cheated and now they aren't? I can't even sort this one out...
2006-12-15 04:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't make any one else do something. So what if he says they're dating? And by the way, what do YOU think? Go with your gut instinct.
2006-12-15 03:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out if this guy really is seeing her, everyone deserves a second chance.
2006-12-15 03:57:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to be honest, even thought i agree with you, it means you're controlling her if you're asking her to do that. If she isn't the person you want her to be, then you're looking for someone else, not her. Maybe you should move on, in short.
2006-12-15 04:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by coochie1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should have him remove it and she shouldnt be hanging with him either if she wants it to work with you. try some better communication and commitment groundwork to settle.
2006-12-15 04:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋