Should I move in with my fiance (Please Read)?

Question

Quick Details:
-Me(26)
-Fiance(28)
-Known each other and have been dating since highschool
-Getting married in May 2007
-Both virgins(Waiting till marriage)
-My fiance asked me to move in with him and I want to move in with him, but I think it might be to tempting...


-Should I move in with him ?
-Is it better to live together before or after marriage ?
-Is it wrong to sleep in the same bed before marriage even if we are just sleeping ?

Thanks for everyone's help :)

Answer 1

Honey, if you sleep long enough in the same bed you will be doing much more than sleeping. If you truly want to remain a virgin you should wait to move in til you are married.

Answer 2

If you think it might be too tempting, and you want to remain a virgin, then go with your instincts on this. Many people live together before marriage, but they are usually not virgins. They feel that they want to get an idea of compatibility before they commit to marriage. It sounds as if you guys have already committed yourselves to each other since you have been dating 10 or more years. So I would say it would not be necessary to move in together. That doesn't mean you can't find a place and decorate it and do all the things that couples do to plan for their lives together. But only you can know what your moral sense says about sleeping together in the same bed and being tempted to have sex when you have decided to wait until you are married.

Answer 3

Well I think that that's up to you. If you do move in with him do you think you can keep yourself a virgin? I also think that if you guys have waited this long you can make it through living together and still respect each other. I would rather move in so i can see what hes like 24/7 but everyone is different. I do have to say congrats for waiting till you get married you don't see that very often any more. So i think its better that you think very hard and discuss it with him and see if you both can over come the temptation and if you think you can then go a head and move in together.

Answer 4

If I were you, then yes I would move in with him. Because if you move in with him although there is the possiblity that you loose your virginity because it is a bit tempting, it has the advantage to know you fiance more and you will be with him 24/7 just like a married couple. I don't see anything wrong if you're just sleeping.

Hope this helps and Good Luck Hun. And may both of you will be happy together.

Answer 5

Move in with him!!!! you need to have lived with someon before you marry them, otherwise it'll make the first few months of marriage really tricky. You need to get used to bein around each other constantly. It may turn out to be too tempting, but if it does its not the end of the world. Its not wrong to sleep int he same bed at all, personally I dont think its wrong to sleep together either, but there you go. Hope you enjoy the wedding.

Answer 6

There is no way I could see myself marrying someone without the 'trial period' of actually knowing how day to day life would be with that person, We are all know people who immediately figured out that it wasnt going to work out after a few weeks or even days of living together,

I dont think it's wrong per se to sleep in the same bed with your fiance but if you're waiting until marriage then it would be best to avoid that temptation,

Best Wishes,
Jeremiah

Answer 7

Since both of you are still virgins, I would say that moving in together is NOT a good idea. Too many temptations!!! I moved in with my husband before we were married, but we were not virgins either!!! I'm glad I moved in with him because I was not to surprised at some of his habits when we starting living as husband and wife! But, your situation is different! And just sleeping in bed, especially if it's a couple, will eventually lead to more "than" sleeping! And, I think this will devastate you wanting to be a virgin on your wedding nite!!! I hoped this helped!!!

Answer 8

First of all... Congratulations on your mature decision to wait for marriage, that is a wonderful gift to give your partner! Ok, so you have never slept beside him before?!? No offense, but I doubt that! It is no different sleeping beside him on the couch & sleeping next to him in a bed(other than the temptation!) As long as you both agree to the terms of the living conditions, do what feels right! Don't let anyone tell you that what you're doing is wrong, because it's not wrong for you if it makes you happy!!! Maybe try staying there a couple nights a week & go from there! Good luck! :)

Answer 9

I think it is critical to live together before marriage. No matter how long you know a person, you never really know them until you live with them. If you are truely serious about wanting to save yourselves for marriage then just make sure you will be able to avoid temptation. I think sleeping in the same bed would be fine, but I would be worried about it a little. I have by no means saved myself for marriage, but I think it's amazing that you guys have. You don't want to lose that. Talk it over with him and maybe you guys can have a safe word or something so that when things are getting hot and heavy and you need to stop you can. Make it something ridiculous or gross to get you out of the mood a little. ("Margaret Thatcher on a cold day" comes to mind) Good luck, and congrats on the engagement!

Answer 10

I think you should move in with him because you truly don't know
a person until you live with them.I believe if you to are saving yourself until marriage then you will be able to continue doing so.As far as sleeping in the same bed that might be a little difficult but you guys have stuck it out so far I think you'll do fine.Its better to know the person better before marriage and realize you just cant live together then to get married and cant live together.Just think as it as a test to see if its all going to work in the end.