She said she loved me, then she didnt?!?!? I'll try to make it as short as possible.?

Question

Ok, to make it as short as possible and give you all the details. Me and this girl have been talking for a while now, and we both feel like society uses the phrase "I love you" to freely when you really dont. So when we were going to say it to each other we would mean it. Well I told her the other night, and then the next night she said it to me. Well tonight I go over to her house and she tells me that she pretty much didnt mean to say it. She does love me but "not that type of love." But she loves me more than a friend. She said that when she said it to me, that it literally made her sick to her stomach. I know she's scared of commitment, and I even tried to ask her tonight where she see's our relationship going and she was like, "I dont want to talk about it." So please help me understand this!!! I love her to death so please dont just say dump her and leave her, please just help me understand her!. Thanks for the help

Ok thanks everyone for all the input. I think i'm just gonna wait it out for a lil while long and see what happens. I love her and I dont pressure her into saying it and she knows it. but I just want to know wether or not i'm wasting my time you know? Well again thanks for all the feedback!!! merry christmas everyone!

Answer 1

ok dude me and my friend had the same sitiation after a while we end up making out in highschool gym
give her time she loves u

Answer 2

I won't lecture you to dump her hun even though I might agree that it is the best thing to do. I would just give her time...definately do not push the subject or smother her. If she really does love you then she will come back to you if you give her the space and time to actually miss you in your absence. As they say, "absence makes the heart grow fonder" and I think that this is true. If she doesn't return the love you feel for her back then please do not degrade your self-esteem by wasting any more time on her..trying 2 make her love you. You cannot make anyone love you ever and trying to will only make her stray further away from you. Hope this helps you out!

Answer 3

Don't push it too much, let it go, give it some time, if she is going to stay with you that obviously means she likes you enough to stay with you, if she doesn't she'll dump you, then you can move on...from what you said you should know pretty soon if its gonna work out, if shes freaking she may be planning on dumping you soon, if she doesn't then just let it play out, don't push it, don't over analyze it, that's when you start scaring people and making them feel trapped.
xxx

Answer 4

You are most likely acting on infatuation.you definately fell in love with her but she does not love.When you love someone you like them with their flaws and stick by them. When you are in love with someone you bask in the thought that they are perfect and you are irriated when they act out of the norm. Try to analyse whether she takes you for who you are and you feel realxed around her.Love is something that takes a while evn people who hate each other may leaarn to love each other. Give her time to learn how to love you.In the mean time do not act differently towards her.Just treat her as you did initially and don't prssure her to say she loves you if she is not ok with it

Answer 5

ummm i was just gonna tell you to do that? ok she said she loves u but not like that .means, i like u but i'm not quite sure about the love part,she is too affraid if u jump with the "big question"(will u marry me?) . she's just confused, she doesn't want this relationship to go to far or to go to an end.damn she really confused,if u really want her to tell you the truth, tell her "if u don't tell me where you see this relationship going ,then i think there wont be one,which is sad because i always loved u'? tell her this it will make her think to her sences for about a week ,but if she wants it over then u will know that she wasn't worth your time .

Answer 6

quit worrying so much, if you love her then accept the idea that you can love someone without expecting anything in return. she may have started feeling the slight twinges of love but you are smothering them, it is difficult for people to give too much of themself, she may be trying to see if she can trust her feelings to you. don't try so hard for a committment, like the saying 2 steps forward 1 step back. this could be the step back. eagerness can kill love faster than anything else.

Answer 7

Ok, here is the understanding you need for this issue. She loves you but is not in love with you and said it only becuase you said it first.
Do what you want to do about dumping her or leaving her, but there ya go for your understandng.

Answer 8

dood. leave it. TRUST me I have been there. I dont wanna be pessimistic about it, the EXACT stuff has happened to me. What you just said. dood. she wants you to be her stand by. Honestly man, when I thought I had met the ONE i was so wrong, TRUST me. you will get over it and another one will come, and if you don't ill give you 20 bucks.

Answer 9

Maybe she just says that just to make you REALLY feel better about yourself. Like i(Amie A), she probably REALLY does hate herself and only says things to make you feel better about yourself. Maybe she REALLY does hate when people talk about her because she hates her life. So she doesn't REALLY care if she is REALLY injured at work because she doesn't REALLY care about herself but REALLY cares more for other people. That's why she REALLY loves to help people ALRIGHT but REALLY not herself.

Love Amie A

Answer 10

maybe feeling sick to her stomach is 'love' ;) she's probably fearing hurt. reassure her that youre understanding and want to continue moving forward with baby steps.