My Girl Kissing. . .?
We were all out for a party last night.
We had a jol, drank beer etc etc.
Then there happened something. . . We all got home. We talked a bit further and then we went to sleep. Me and my Chick and another chick. Then they thought I was sleeping. Then they started kissing and went to the bathroom, still thinking I'm asleep. Then this mormning I told them I know.
What must I do. Leave her, Scream at her or what!!
And know she also has a boyfriend so a threesome is out!!!
2006-12-14 19:22:33 · 9 answers · asked by Hotrod Hoender 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It comes down to cheating. Whether your girlfriend kissed a guy or a girl it makes no difference in my eyes. So you should be reacting the same way as if you would when someone normally cheats on you.
I would take offence to the fact that she did not care that you were in the room (sleeping or not sleeping). That shows lack of respect for you right there.
You should talk to her though, maybe she is confused about her sexuality. Discuss if she is a lesbian or bi and find out where you stand.
Basically, if it was me. I would drop her sorry ****! You do not need to tolerate cheating.
2006-12-14 19:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by Deelicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the problem? She's bi? Or that she didn't tell you about this?
By me, the former is fine. The second is technically "cheating", even though it's not a guy she was with. She should have asked you if it was okay if she went and played with this other girl.
The strength of a relationship and the character of the persons in it is not determined by the issues they have, but by how they handle those issues together.
It sounds more to me like a simple miscommunication between you and her. She didn't tell you for some reason or another (maybe she thought you'd scream at her?). For some reason, her being honest with you about herself is not a safe thing to be. Or, she perceives it as such.
You need to approach it as such. If she thought you're accepting of her as she is, without judgement of her, than she would have asked you.
In true love, you attain freedom. When you love, you bring freedom to the person you love. If the opposite is true, it is not true love. You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free, not only outside but also inside.
Good luck. And listen more than you talk. You're hurt, but remember, she didn't tell you for a reason... she thought you'd react exactly like you are. She couldn't trust you. Show her she can.
2006-12-15 04:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, everyone's different I guess, but I'm kinda into the honesty thing so if my lady was getting her jollies with other people and especially other guys, I'd probably giver her the boot. What's the point of a relationship if the people involved arent going to be honest with each other - that to me isnt a relationship and no one deserves that, but that's just my opinion.
Good luck, hope this helps
2006-12-14 19:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by shomaliatimalla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use her for a booty call but, if you are seeking a serious relationship than yeah you need to move on.
Why was this other chick sleeping in your bed? That right there is asking for trouble.
2006-12-14 19:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. If they are still , you know.... You should leave. That is my advice
2006-12-14 19:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sankiny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are probably just having some fun, relax dude.
no biggie =)
2006-12-14 19:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by devviash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should leave her. She's clearly a lesbian and so if u wanna continue dating a lesbian u are most welcome.
2006-12-14 19:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by tiya_ahuja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her
2006-12-14 19:28:57 · answer #8 · answered by jthizz_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you feel is right for you
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2006-12-14 19:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by dana brown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋