There's this girl I like, I've known her for a long time and just recently fell for her but the thing is she likes someone else and it seems she's trying to get me jealous by telling me about him...
but we have the "friend" relationship...should I tell her I have feelings for her or keep it to myself?
I feel this pressure in my chest when she talks about him, is it jealousy or just heart break???
2006-12-14 18:26:55 · 20 answers · asked by orejitas285 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you've had feelings for her for a long time then it's heartbreak. Otherwise it's just jealousy. You shouldn't torture yourself like that. Tell her how you feel, life is short. If she don't feel the same way...sure it will hurt but it's better to love and be hurt than never to love at all. At least you won't have to wonder everyday if or if not. Once the dust settles, you'll feel a great weight lifted off of you. Plus is she does feel the same way, that will make like your whole day right?
2006-12-14 18:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by Chetaraparker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh god, Yes I have liked a guy for 12 years and never told him I that I liked him, Now I feel like it's way too late to even try. I think you should just talk to her about what your feeling and see what she says. YES tell her how you feel or you could end up like me 12 years down the road with out the person you want in your life.
2006-12-15 02:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by QueenFan0946 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes unfortunately,i have this feeling right now and it really sucks...as for the pressure on your chest, i think its probably both jealousy and heartbreak but mainly heartbreak. If you happen to find a way to get rid of this feeling please let me know
as for whether to tell her, well i prob cant give advice on that cos i dont know what to do either, but i think if you did tell her and it turns out she doesnt feel the same it might make it easier for you to forget about her and move on,
have to say if i liked a guy i wouldnt tell him i liked someone else cos i would be thinkin he'll never ask me out if he thinks i like someone else, but some girls like to play games like that to make you jealous.
2006-12-15 02:31:59 · answer #3 · answered by ella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately yes I have felt that feeling before. However in you case, I would say that if a girl is trying to make you jealous with another guy... then what you are feeling for her is not one-sided. A girl never feels the need to make a guy feel jealous unless she has feeling for him too.
2006-12-15 02:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by Aneska G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its jealousy for sure because you want to be in his place ..I don't think it's right to tell her about your feelings now because maybe she just rejects you and even you lose your friendship with her ,I think you must wait for some times and see what will happen later..if she loves the other guy ,your chances are low but at least you can have her as a friend...
2006-12-15 02:32:04 · answer #5 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she has already got a boyfriend, forget her and move on. There are other girls out there who deserve your care and concern than this girl. Why hurt yourself over someone who is not interested in taking the relationship a step further?
2006-12-15 02:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
II think that you should tell her how you feel especially if you have feelings of hurt in your heart. You have great confidence already if you know that she is trying to get you jealous,so it should be easier for you to tell her how you feel. I really admire confidence in men, that is so attractive, good luck.
2006-12-15 02:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love unreturned is a painful thing. hang tight and be patient but don't wait around forever. if and when the time feels right tell her how you feel or just give her a great big kiss then tell her if she kisses you back. and yes she could be trying to see if you squrm when she talks about this other guy, she could be pushing you to tell her how you feel . like i said don't wait forever.
2006-12-15 02:32:00 · answer #8 · answered by looken4answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the exact same way this second. Write her a sweet poem and give it to her.
Whenever i get really sad about something like that i write a tear-jerker poem about it and it helps ease the heartache.
2006-12-15 02:31:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get a couple of drinks in ya and go talk to her.Really though what is the worst that can happen? she will just say no but that doesn't mean you still can't be friends,if she don't want to be friends with you,then you shouldn't with that person.Its a game of chance,go for it
2006-12-15 02:30:01 · answer #10 · answered by chaosphere187 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋