I Need help with an angry and defiant 2 1/2 yr old?

Answer 1

Obedience, to be achieved, must be reinforced. A little toddler is not going to get there by themselves. Successful parents train their children to (experimentally) learn that good behavior has good consequences, and bad behavior has bad consequences.

Answer 2

First of all, you need to understand that if your child is angry and defiant, 2 things are for certain; 1. the child is angry about something, and,2. its probably something you or the father did, which has called the child to lose respect for you or the father causing him/her to become defiant. Once you grasp that part of it, then you will be able to control the child's behavior. The first thing you need to do is let this child know how very much he/she is loved by you and how it hurts knowing he/she is not happy about something. However, there is a tough part. If he acts out of anger, you must be firm and tell the child that his behavior is not acceptable and will not be tolerated. Refuse to give in to this child until the behavior changes. Let's say your child wants a cookie and you tell him/ her no and he pitches a fit and becomes beligerent to you or to someone else. Firmly tell him/her that the reason he is not getting the cookies is..........(whatever reason you choose). Tell him you are sorry he is angry but this is your final word and refuse to give in. Let him/her throw his tantrum. Just simply ignore him/ her. DO NOT acknowledge the tantrum at all, no matter how bad it gets on your nerves. Some how, you have given him/her the impression that that type of behavior gets him what he wants, whether it be a cookie or some of your time. Just remember, negative attention to a child is still attention. So best advise...Ignore him when he behaves badly. tell him if he wants to throw his tantrum to feel free to do so but he needs to take it to another room, and if he doesn't go elsewhere willingly, by all means pick him up and put him where you want him to throw his fit, then close the door and walk away and do not go back until his attitude has changed.

Answer 3

it's called Terrible 2's lol!!My son drives me absolutely nuts...he is older.They are all angry when they do Not get THEIR way!!Well,sometimes you just have to show THEM who's really the Boss.Set some reasonable standards,and be consistant.Yes,it is a pain..but kids are worth it!I would take away whatever he plays with.Pretty much anything he cares about.Some people say that Time Outs are really effective.You could try that if you want.It does not work on my little one.He starts to listen,when I take away his belongings.Good luck and have patience..they will always be brats,lol.I love my brat no matter what!!

Answer 4

Thanks for the details. Your name is sassy- this defiant 2.5 year old is payback.

Answer 5

WELL THIS IS WHAT I DO WITH MY NEPHEW YOU HAVE TO CATCH THEM RIGHT BEFORE THEY THROW THERE TANTRUM YOU HAVE TO TAKE THERE MINE OFF OF IT LIKE TICKLING THEM R SOMETHING LIKE THAT TRY IT IF IT WORK MAKE SURE TO VOTE ME AS BEST ANSWER