depressed??

Question

every time i really like someone ,they always turn around and say ive going out with someone now,even though we were really close i can not make it past the friendship zone,i feel asthough im going to be alone forever,all the love songs that are on the radio and t.v ,i cant relate to ive never been in love with someone and theyve felt the same way back,especially with christmas coming up i really dont want to be alone anymore,what is it that im doing wrong?? sensible answers please because this is a really sensitive subject to me? thanks.

im a girl and im 16,but just because im young doesnt mean i feel anyless pain.

Answer 1

you haven't found the right person,pure and simple.I wouldn't worry about it,good things are bound to happen soon.Just take your mind off it.

Answer 2

I would say that really finding a boyfriend when thats all you could ever want is not the right ingredients for a relationship. concerntrate more on frienships goig out with the girls and then maybe a lad will come along when you least expect it. It may seem that you are so desperate for a boyfriend that it's almost off putting.

It will happen but you gotta shake of this feeling of unworthyness. Everybody is entitled to happiness it's just not your time yet. Don't be disheartened by anything ive said, just be patient.

Answer 3

Hi. You don't say how old you are? There is someone for everyone, you just have to wait until the right one comes along. You say they always say theyre going out with someone else? Have you tried asking them out before they decide theyre going with someone else? I really don't know how you go about finding a 'partner', but don't go looking for one, a good way is to do some voluntary work or go to night classes or things like that. You will find that you start off just talking to people, then one day you will realise that this is the one. Don't go looking for a partner, just let nature take its course. Sorry, but i don't know if you are a male or female or your age, so its a bit harder to suggest things. Please don't get depressed over it, i know its easier than it sounds. We all have a soul mate somewhere. We just have to wait for them to come along. If its difficult listening to love songs, then turn them off for now. You won't be alone forever, believe me. The very best of luck to you.
Gosh, after seeing that you're only 16 yet, you're still very young to be worrying about such a thing. You just need to go out and meet more people. You could also try things like helping out at Beavers/Scouts/Rainbows, you'll be suprised at how many people you will meet there. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Your worrying about nothing. You have the rest of your life to get a boyfriend. /and then you will be wishing you hadn't at times!!
I met my now husband when I was 14years and 10months old we have been married 26 years. At the time everyone said your too young it will not last but it did. So I do realise how strong your feelings can be at 16. Just the same concentrate on your friends, enjoy yourself and follow your hopes and interests and when you least expect it it will happen.
Good luck
And have a Great Christmas
Wish I was 16 again...

Answer 5

I would say you need to chill out a bit you are only 16 and have plenty of time to meet people!

Just don't try too hard be yourself and enjoy your life one of the guys you like might realise that you could be more than just friends maybe it is because you are more adult than the other girls they know and are intimidated by you and your intelligence

Just let it be your time will come when it is good and ready

Hope you have a lovely Christmas and good luck, you never know a new year a new Boyfriend!

Answer 6

I am sorry that you are feeling unhappy now. Don't let the holiday season make you feel sad just think of all the good things that might happen for you next year. I can relate to the way you feel it would be nice to have someone special. I see myself being single from now on. But that is better then being married and being lonely-and that can really happen! I hope someone special comes along for you. Have a very happy new year!

Answer 7

I wouldn't worry about it too much. There is nothing that you are doing wrong and that is not the case. Im sure u are a really great girl and its not ur fault. If they cant see how good a person you are then its their loss, and believe me u will find your love when u least expect it. Try to not think about finding someone and as life goes, some of the best things u find are when ur not looking for them. Your not gonna be alone forever and will find someone truely great that will love you back as much as you love them. Just remember there is someone out there for everyone and i bet he's trying to find you as we speak. Take care and enjoy urself and you will soon find ur guy

Answer 8

Society wants you to think that if you are not with someone you cannot be happy or fulfilled. This is not true. TV and radio are shoving love down your throat. Why not just wait for the real thing instead of jumping the gun so quick. Yes, you are young, but there are more important things for you to be doing like getting an education. "Love" at 16 is most often not love.

Immature love says
"I love you because I need you"
Mature love says
"I need you because I love you"

Maybe you are lonely and need some more friends or to be with friends more often. At this time use your friends and family to quench your need to be loved.

Answer 9

I did'nt have a bf 'til I was eighteen,but when I got out on my own I realised what a hot mama I was ,although in school I always felt like a nerd.When I look back I realize it gave depth to my personality to have been alone ALL that time,so although we can better our looks,sometimes soul and personality come out of the more sad experiences .But that's what makes us valuable...Good luck.

Answer 10

i think if u want to meet da rite person u must not be all ova da person! u sound like a very passionate person and someone that likes to show feelings, that might scare da person off cause they feel suffocated to quick maybe u should keep ur feelings back until u can c da person is starting to show da same feelings that u want to express. mwhaa good luck sweety!

Answer 11

From reading this, It turns out to be for me as well. I can never get past friendship, I keep on getting rejected. I've never even been on a date