you have ever heard of that saying when you love someone set them free and if it was meant to be that they will come back to you and if they don't it never was meant ??????
Has anyone ever experienced this before......have come back to you and what was the ending?????
2006-12-14 18:16:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 63 y/o and I've never had any girl or woman who dumped me later change their mind and come back. I did go back to one woman that I dumped but it didn't work out.
If there is any thing similar that I think is true, it's that if a person tries to control a person and be with them everywhere, that other person while pull away to gain some breathing space.
If the saying were true, it would have to be that everything was predetermined in life, and nothing was up to us. I don't think that that is true.
I was married for 17 years before my wife left me when I became physically disabled. The thing I learned during that time was that long term relationships are hard work.
Both people have to have good communication skills, a sense of humor, and humility to resolve the issues that occur in any relationship. In a marriage, the couple must have common life goals and it helps to have common things they like to do for fun, common religious beliefs.
The other thing that is necessary for a marriage to last is that each person must make a loving marriage the highest priority in their life. Both people must do this, just one isn't enough.
There are other things that are helpful for a relationship to last; too many to say here, and I don't know them all anyway. In would be nice if the strong feelings of sexual attraction and the bonding that comes with regular sexual relations, that most young people call love, were enough, but it's not.
The good thing is that people can make good judgements about another person, if they would be good person for them to be with for a life time. I know that this is a long answer to a yes or no question but I care about you and I suspect you are hurting from the loss of a romantic relationship.
I know how that feels. When we're learning about love and relationships there will be relationships that don't last forever and it will hurt when they end. But we can learn from each one about relationships and about ourselves so that maybe we will learn enough so that the next person we choose will be right for us. And maybe we will have enough relationship skills to resolve the issues that come up.
If you believe in God, ask Him to send a Godly man into your life that is good for you and you for him. There is a saying that I do think is true. To have a love that lasts a lifetime, you have to choose the right person and you have to be the right person.
God bless you now and all of your life.
2006-12-14 19:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this saying is very much true me and my boyfriend where dating in high school he was a year ahead of me when he graduated he decided he didn't want a relationship i was really hurt but i didn't want to fight for something he didn't want so i let him go we didn't talk for two years until January of this year when i discovered i still had his graduation ring i then found a way to contact him on-line he called me and our friendship began within the next month he told me he had missed me over the years we where separated and wanted a relationship again i was afraid at first but then he proved he was serious and this February 14th we will have been together for a year and we are very happy and hes even talking about marriage so i hope this answers your question well enough.
2006-12-15 02:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by IS IT TRUE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a stupid saying. I was told this when my husband was behaving badly and it was more guilt on my head. Oh yes, he did come back but by then I was bored with his lies and his lack of respect for me, besides the obvious lack of love. We divorced. Best thing I ever did in my life.
I prefer these: "If you love someone, show them" and "It takes two to make a marriage".
2006-12-15 03:26:34 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have heard the saying and I have used it. With the results on both the spectrum's. I have let two go in my past and both have returned. One i married (nine years now)and the other I could not bring myself to subject them to my down falls at the time so i pushed them away. Others I have let go and don't want them back other than as friends. So it does work both ways and can go against you at the same time.
2006-12-15 02:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by last_countrygentleman 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have heard of it but if I "set them free" I dont want them to come back.
2006-12-15 02:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by MrBret 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
've heard the expression and it is soooo true, but no I havn't had anyone come back but thats cuz they weren't meant to be, I just recently let a guy go because he had t take care of himself and get hislife straightened out (drug addict) anyway I love him, like the real thing with aaaall of my heart so Im HOPING that it's meant to be with us and that he'll come back when he's bettter but I doubt he will :(
2006-12-15 02:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by Uninvited_Ideas 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I've heard of it and I let him go but he never bothered to come back. Even if he did, I wouldn't take him back. Well his love wasn't true. He was a liar.
2006-12-15 02:19:56 · answer #7 · answered by * TeXaS cHiCk * 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The saying is flawed. It should be adjusted to , if you love someone set them free , if they do not leave they are truly yours if they leave they never were.
2006-12-15 02:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES......this is oh so true...........
let's just say i had a boyfriend who i let go from my life........a couple of years later.we still loved each other and realized we were meant to be together...we reunited. got married.& have been living happily ever after since then..........
2006-12-15 02:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yep, agree with bret, if i set them free i wouldn't want them to come back
2006-12-15 02:20:56 · answer #10 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋