I seem to attract guys that cheat. Every guy I've dated in the last few years has ended up cheating on me.
I am a little lost, and maybe I'm doing something wrong. My friends( and especially my best friend - a guy) tell me that I'm and easy going funny, outgoing kinda chick. And I like to think I am too. I have never been a whiner or anything. I don't mind my guy going to the pub most nights or hangin with his mates etc I don't even mind him flirting ( you can look but you can't touch) I myself like to hang at the pub and play pool etc. I still cook and clean and work and all the "wifey" stuff. And I like sex just as much as any guy out there. And yet despite all the freedom they have they find the need to cheat. What am i doing wrong?? Am I giving them too much freedom to run with??
2006-12-14 17:55:56 · 11 answers · asked by loza500 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't make myself easy to get. I've taken every relationship slow in the beginning, and now even more so since i've been burnt too many times. It seems that everything is good until we live together, and despite spending time together, spending time alone and hanging with our own mates they still go looking
2006-12-14 18:08:54 · update #1
There are no proper reason for so many things outa there especially when comes to what other people thinking and feeling.
You maybe should ask those guys that cheat you what is the reason behind it? Useually it won't work out because it's NOT YOU... but those guys with this kind of mentality out there. never get satisfied and too easy taking things for granted....
Some people just had to meet so many wrong type of partners before they can actually meet the right one that made for them... i believe u r tat type... just wait patiently and don't be too nice to this guys especially on flirting part. If u give permission to flirt, they will go more extend than that....
2006-12-14 18:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by cute 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are attracted to cheaters.
When a guy cheats, it has nothing to do with the girl he is with and everything to do with who he is.
It is possible that the guys you pick are alcoholics and while not every alcoholic is a cheater, the nature of alcoholism is self-sabotage and destruction. If a person is treating his own body badly and his judgment is impaired, how well can he manage a relationship?
You cannot control another person, so the amount of freedom you think you give is irrelevant. The only thing you have done wrong is picked guys that cheat. Perhaps they are exciting and a little dangerous and you find that attractive. You might possibly find guys that don't cheat boring. We tend to attract and gravitate toward what we are used to, so if you have been with a few cheaters, you will probably be with a few more unless you change your criteria.
2006-12-15 02:07:18 · answer #2 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are giving them too much freedom. I know most people wont agree, but I think you really can give a guy too much freedom. I am not against an occasional night out with the guys, but its my opinion that if my bf wants to hang out at bars, he should bring me with so we can have fun together. You know the old saying that couples who play together stay together. I really believe that. On the other hand, I appreciate the occasional night out with the girls, but its really my preference to go out with him because he is my mate and I love being with him. Too much freedom creates too much temptation. Especially in a drinking environment. Just my humble opinion.
2006-12-15 02:04:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you are so free with your boyfriend. But maybe you should let him know that you are not easy, or some woman kept on the side. Let the next man in your life that if he cheats, that he's out of you life. But don't get to suspicious, because that gives men the feeling of being suffacated.
2006-12-15 02:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by Some Girl from College 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it, but most men - at some point or other in their lives - have or will cheat on their significant other. You are doing NOTHING wrong! Don't blame yourself because the guys you date are so immature and insecure that they have to cheat. Just be on your guard and hold out, you will find a man who deserves you and treats you right eventually.
2006-12-15 02:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by Jen Armero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL IF I WERE YOU I WOULD TAKE A STEP BACK AND NOT DATE FOR A WHILE. IT MIGHT BE A SIGN THAT YOU SHOULD TAKE THINGS VERY SLOW AND NOT DO SO MUCH FOR THE MEN YOU DATE. DOING THE WIFEY THING AND YOUR NOT MARRIED TO THEM. DONT GIVE TO MUCH OF YOUR SELF TO PEOPLE. I WOULD SPEND SOME TIME WORKING ON MY SELF AND MY LIFE. BELIEVE ME WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT THE RIGHT GUY WILL COME ALONE. JUST WAIT AND SEE I PROMISE
2006-12-15 02:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by mizzpretti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They keep cheating on you because you are not a challenge. Make it harder for a guy to get you and he will look after his prize a little better. It will also filter out the guys that aren't prepared to pay the price to get you and that will result in a better grade boyfriend.
2006-12-15 02:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by Pilgrim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're just attracted to the wrong guy. Or maybe you should consider finding someone who would be willing to wait until marriage. Chances are he wouldn't be as likely to cheat.
2006-12-15 01:59:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are probably just attracted to that type of men for some reason. its not you.
2006-12-15 01:58:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
come here ill take you to my paradise and treat you nice...
2006-12-15 02:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋