where is the limit line where your obssessed, clingy and jzt being a good girlfriend..and
how do you not get attached so soon because you don't want to get hurt?
2006-12-14 17:49:09 · 8 answers · asked by lalala 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't have such high expectations.
Because the higher you get, the harder you fall.
Also, give them some space. Don't call them every hour. Don't TELL them to call you at certain times. Let them do things on their own. It makes you feel better too when they do things willingly and not "forcefully."
2006-12-14 17:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is so hard to do. Especially at the beginning of a relationship with the guy is SO hot and SO awesome, and you can't stop thinking about him.
Ok, take a deep breath. Now, find a hobby. No seriously, find something to focus on that is not this guy. Or any other guy. Write a book, joing a quilting club, help a local politician, volunteer, take extra classes, make yourself busy.
Getting attached is much more likely if you have time on your hands. If you are really busy, and you have to squeeze in time for him, it's harder to be attached, and it's more likely that he'll fight for your attention (if he doesn't then perhaps that is a sign in and of itself).
Often times, we get really attached when we're afraid of losing something. The more fear we have, the more we get attached. So, by having your own interests, you know that if you do lose this guy, you're still gonna be OK cuz your life is full with lots of fun stuff to do, and you are in contact with lots of guys all around. So you'll be OK. And when you feel like you're going to be OK if you lose this guy, you won't be so attached.
Attachment = fear. Be honest. You're scared of losing him. But unfortunately, guys can sense this. And it's a turn off. Don't be a ***** about it. But definitely make it clear that you have your own life and that if he wants in it, you're not going to beg for it. Because you don't have the time or energy for that kind of relationship. You want something fun, easy and fulfilling. And that's what he wants too. If you both want the same thing, it's more likely you'll enjoy each other's company a lot more. And you'll definitely enjoy the time away from him more.
Good luck!
2006-12-14 18:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by TammyT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn from past relationships..take a look at what u did in relationships that ended...there is no limit between a good gf and clingy..when you think you r being clingy read your bf body language..if he seems uneasy or he is always moving away then give him space in time you'll get it.. i have the same problem in getting to attached ..way too early!! i have crashed hard too.. but i use them as learning experiences .. no one is perfect..
2006-12-14 18:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex so soon, and you don't get so attatched to the wrong person.
All these things are symptoms of insecurity. Sometimes you have ever right to feel insecure, because you are dating a jerk who doesn't care about your feelings. To stop this you stop dating jerks.
2006-12-14 17:54:13 · answer #4 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not to think of him all the time,and think about the future not the present
2006-12-14 18:04:44 · answer #5 · answered by chaosphere187 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by keeping it real,dont stop doing youre normal stuff,hanging with friends etc
2006-12-14 17:55:05 · answer #6 · answered by catherine w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fall in love with one, dont let go of him and you'll never get attached again.
2006-12-14 17:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
keep your distance not to close,keep your clothes on,and when he tells you he loves you dont fall for it he is a liar...
2006-12-14 17:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by dee30 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋