I'm currently involved with a guy for about a year and a half now. He's more devoted to this relationship than i am. The problem started ever since i told him that i'm moving overseas for good because I have been offered a good job opportunity. He's not willing to let go of me and wants to continue "us" as a long distance relationship but frankly speaking i dont feel the same.
Recently i found out that my ex is also there (the place that i'm moving to) who i was very much in love with (and vice versa). Ever since my ex found out that i'm moving to the same place as him he says that all those feelings that he felt for me (when we were together) have rushed back and he can't wait to see me and be with me and to be honest i feel the same way.
So i'm kind of torn between the two. I feel i should be with the one i love (the ex) but i feel awful leaving my current bf like that cos he is very much in love with me. What should i do?
please give genuwine advice only.
2006-12-14 17:47:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is funny...I'm in the same boat almost. I have been in a relationship that I know is going no where for two and a half years now and for the past year I have only been with him because he is so in love with me and I more than anything don't want to hurt him. But I know when I move overseas in May he will not go with me and I have told him that this can not work. And what he does is say he'll do anything to make it work....blah, blah blah! And now I am stuck in a relationship that I am so unhappy with. I am starting to resent him even though I do love him and care about his feelings. And now I'm hurting him even more because I come off like I don't care. My advice to you is get out sooner than later. If you are moving soon then you should move and then after a little time you guys will drift apart and it would be much easier for the both of you. Just don't chose someone because of you being afraid to hurt their feelings or you'll end up like me. When you get to it being almost three years it seems like your going to crush them and that there is no chance for them to go on with out you.
2006-12-14 18:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by flightchix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you have answered your own question, dont you?
Your not torned you know, what and who you want am i right?
Your moving over seas, so the guy your seeing now well i guess there's not to much he can do,if you say your leaving.I feel bad for him as well as you do,yeah he will be broken hearted for months to come, but it sounds like you already have your mind made up. So good luck best wishes and go with your heart...(Guy number 2)!!!!
2006-12-15 01:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by Porcelain Doll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to be honest with yourself and be honest with your current bf. If you dont feel for him like he does for you, i dont see why you should keep a lie going. About your ex bf. Make sure he is being true to you and you should keep going from there.
2006-12-15 01:55:58 · answer #3 · answered by elena1209 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already been unfaithful to your current boyfriend by your thoughts and feelings for the ex boyfriend. You should breakup with the current boyfriend immediately. You are leaving the country anyway.
The poor guy, I feel sorry for him. Guess you don't care about his feelings and well being.
2006-12-15 01:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree... follow your heart. But seriously, if you can't see yourself having a long distance relationship then you should end it. You owe it to yourself and your bf to not stay in a relationship that you aren't commited to. good luck
2006-12-15 01:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I FEEL THAT YOU NEED TO BE HONEST WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND AND LET HIM KNOW THAT THE REALTIONSHIP
IS NOT WORKING FOR YOU AND THAT YOU NEED THE SPACE TO GET YOUR SELF TOGETHER, AS FOR THE
EX, DONT RUSH END TO THAT EITHER, GIVE YOUR SELF
TIME TO ADJUST TO EVERYTHING OTHER WISE YOU WILL
START SOMETHING THAT MAY NOT WORK OUT. GIVE
YOUR SELF TIME. AND THEN YOUR HEART WILL TELL YOU
WHAT NEED TO BE DONE.
2006-12-15 01:55:37 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart, and do what is right for you.
2006-12-15 01:51:08 · answer #7 · answered by a9113257311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should do what your heart tells you too .. but your should tell your bf what you want .. it\'s part of life ..
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2006-12-15 01:51:02 · answer #8 · answered by dana brown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋