my college psychology professor belives the person who cares less about a relationship tends to have the most power over ah relationship than the person who cares more about a reltionship is that true. and if it is how could u ues that in the dateing world
2006-12-14 17:39:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's probably true, the person who cares more is more dependent on the other person.. the person who cares less really has nothing to lose and could give up the relationship without really getting hurt. Therefore, the less caring person has more power. But i'm not sure how they use that power. It's very odd.
2006-12-14 17:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person who cares less holds slightly more power because if the relationship fails, they likely won't be wasting any time crying about it, whereas the person invested in the relationship will be looking at the bottom of a pint of Ben & Jerry's. I, however, believe in a relationship where there isn't a power struggle. I think that each partner should be equals ( in caring) or else you're with the wrong person. You could use this in the dating world where if you feel that either you or the other person aren't on the same page, just walk away because that's not a healthy relationship.
2006-12-15 01:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by minionofgozer77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your psychologist is a nut job. Relationships are not about power. Marriage is about giving not taking. And in all relationship the person that gives the most has the most authority in the relationship. Example a wife A: Is loving, caring and giving. making her husband feel like a king in the living room, the kitchen and the bed room. Husband thinks i am the most blessed man on the earth. Example a wife B: Is mean all the time, never makes breakfest, but does not have a job her self, she does not keep the house clean nor does he pay attention in the bed room.
Husband thinks i am in pure hell this woman is not worth my effert. In both the examples authority comes as a result of giving. When people start taking and no giving they then become powerless. In example B the wife lost her power because she took for granted her position and her husband. In example A the wife was wise knowing her authority was in her giving.
2006-12-15 02:15:00 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is true because if u careless about your relationship then it doesn't worry you as much if it ends badly so u can basically control the partner in the way that you will end your relationship with them which they won't want. the way you can use in that world is that if you want that person to be with you but you still don't care if you break up or if your relationship with them ends up badly, then you can like threaten in the way that you will say that you will end the relationship between you all which they won't want and they might try to flatter you a little more to stay with you
hope you get it
hope it helps
maybe i'm not all correct
thomas the question is saying that if one care less than he or she has more power .what u are saying, is the afterward of one of the partners carings a lot about their relationship so they will do that
2006-12-15 01:48:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm. That's a very interesting point.
I think in a way that is true. Because one person may be so needy in a relationship ... and the other person is just sittin' back relaxin'. Since that person isn't doing anything, it causes the other person to wonder what's going on and is very needy. So in a way, the relaxed person has more control emotionally. The needy person is all over the place letting that person control their emotions like that. That gives them the power to control them.
2006-12-15 01:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If a person doesn't care and another person does care then the person who cares will do whatever it takes to keep the relationship going while the person who doesn't care is the motivater. Power is the ability to control.
2006-12-15 01:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one i do believe it, just like hostage takers have more power than the negotiator. they have something they dont care about but the negotiator does. its the same thing except with feelings. the partner that cares less is more willing to dangle the relationship by a thread to get the other to do what they want. if you try to use that in the dating world then you are a ***** because you are screwing with people that cant hurt you back. they are emotionally handicapped. its like hitting someone in a wheelchair its just wrong.
2006-12-15 01:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by DR Zuess god of the misinformed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, yeah - the person who cares more will do more for the other person.
Trying to abuse that "power", however, is not something anyone in any real relationship would want to do.
2006-12-15 01:47:55 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is true, because the person who does care is willing to do whatever it takes to stay with the person and make them happy.
2006-12-15 01:48:07 · answer #9 · answered by Christina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true, but if you try to use that principle you extensively you will drive people away. Just don't be DESPERATE, and don't put up with anyone who doesn't care enough about you, and you will be fine. Good night!
2006-12-15 01:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋