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ok.... I have tried all of the good advice like "be your self."and every other advice that I have heard and non of anything tends to work. So should I just stop looking for a date. I do have a lot of confidence and very proud of the things that I do. I just bum out at dating.....I will respond to all e-mails so be real with the answers.

2006-12-14 17:35:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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the less you look, the more you find. i was 45 when i found my soulmate and i wasn't looking at the time.the saying that there is someone for every one is soooooo true.

2006-12-14 17:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by ruwako2002 3 · 0 0

Short answer, ---- no. :-)

Like you said "Be yourself", far as taking a traditional attitude with women, obviously fails.

The problem is, let's face it, women use confidence as a measure of experience and often figure something like man with bad experience = bad lover + weak/unopinionated personallity can not stick up for self in public + lazy / can not do that at work either. You can be the fittest, most disciplined, best lover around (not to mention deviously creative and surprisng) but, if you don't have the confidence, you can not win the game if you can not get one the field. You said you are confidence but my question back is "confident at what exactly? It depends what type of confidence you have." If you can, giving no gifts whatsoever and not succumbing to doing activities she wants at all, trust yourself to still make your time with her a blast simply because you are there and, furthermore, lead her into your own "world" and make it fun not by trying to impress her but just enjoying yourself, then you are truely confident.

Some real world suggestions:
1) Argue some with women. Once every few sentences say something like "aren't you a bit short for a cute girl?" Also challenge her to things you are good at: if you golf make the date golf even if she does not like it be the leader lead her into something new that you would love to be doing anyhow. This should boost your confidence: worst case you enjoy something you love doing and likely get someone to take along again.
2) When the date happens do lots of athletic activities get her tired this will boost her sexual hormones like mad. Make the first date kind of like a teasing/dare race a bit like when two young kids say "bet you can't do this".
I got a girl who used to call me ugly to date me on a skating date she thought it'd be something to laugh about to her friends but, between her seeing me as the leader and better skater and being tortured with her own hormones, she ended up french kissing me) :-)
3) Straight out be a great lover. If you date a girl who gets you out of breath before you get her out of breath (or you drool when kissing) you lose (this constitutes dating out of your league). I know this sounds a bit like "American Pie" but, even behind any stereotypes, as usual, there is at least a hint of truth.


Best luck man. :-)

2006-12-14 17:53:22 · answer #2 · answered by M S 5 · 0 0

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2016-11-26 20:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

Well, you should "be yourself." Just go out and live your life, do the stuff you like to do. Or get involved in something new - take a class, train for a triathlon (that's always good therapy for me!), or take up a new hobby that involves other people. And don't worry so much about whether you meet people. Just live your life.

2006-12-14 17:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

if the dating scene is not working for you, than may I suggest you spend some time examining you actions, language, and thinking. have you had any one criticize you, please go back and do not take it personally, but as INFORMATION that you may need, you might ask close trusted to be honest in doing an evaluation, again do not take it personally, but rather as information you can use to change, because that is what you need to do and then you will not bum out

2006-12-14 17:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0 0

Sometimes you just have to keep trying. Other times things just sorta fall into place. If you feel that it's over and there is no luck, then give up, if you still think that the lady of your dreams is out there, then don't give up until you found her.

2006-12-14 17:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I'm no lady, but giving up on finding love means you certainly won't find anyone. So, unless you want to grow old by yourself, you should'nt completely give up. You may just be going after the wrong types of women.

2006-12-14 17:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by program dude 2 · 0 0

Just hang in there and you will find that special someone. Sometimes, us as humans, try to force things to happen in life, when sometimes all we have to do is sit-back and have patience. Believe me there is someone out there for you, quit trying so hard. Who knows, that person may be right around the corner.

2006-12-14 17:40:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Just relax. Stop looking for love so much. Just let it come to you. Love never comes if you keep searching for it.

God has a plan for you and will bring you the right person in His time. Just have faith in Him.

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