This guy hasn't worked or done any volunteer work in 4 years. His mother supports him, although he doesn't live with her. He's also a chronic pot smoker. Mom buys his groceries, he does his laundry at her place, and he uses her address for his bills, which probably means she's paying his expenses. I've only known him two weeks but I see red flags here. I'm just feeling like I should run the other way - and probably will. By the way - he's 46! He had a low-paying career prior to stopping work, so I imagine he has little savings and requires her help. The whole thing just doesn't feel right.
2006-12-14 17:33:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you even have to ask? The guy is 46 years old and if he's been dependent on his mom for this long, then mostly likely he's not going to change. His mother is crazy for supporting him for this long. I believe that you can do a whole lot better than this guy and you deserve better as well. He would only bring you down to his level if you were to date him.
2006-12-14 17:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No WAY!!! RUN and run FAST! This guy is a loser and a waste of flesh, and a big part of that is mommy's fault. This is a bad situation that will only get worse. Think Cliff Clavin from Cheers.
Spare yourself the BS and find a real man! Leave him to his first love (mommy dearest) and know that you deserve MUCH better.
2006-12-15 01:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it kind of depends on whether or not you like him ......but i don't think so cause if his mama supports him what will happen if you date him he might depend on you to do everything and he smokes
I DON'T THINK SO!!!!!! why would you want to date a guy that needs his mother for almost everything when hes only 4 years away from being half 100 years old and he smokes that's not helping him at all his mama needs him not the other way around
you can do better and for you to notice that he does what he does it sounds like you deserve better
2006-12-15 01:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lil 'sita 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Go with your feelings, run far run fast. I'm sure the pot smoker can't catch up. Maybe Mamma will give him a ride though so run girl run.
2006-12-15 01:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you already know the answer to this one. I would never get connected with a man first of all that does any type of drugs. Second, if he can't (or won't) even support himself, how do you think he can support a family or even a healthy relationship? I would steer clear from this one.
2006-12-15 01:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by iwannabeanofficer 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your right RUN as fast as you can he probably spent all his money on his drugs and besides him not being able to support even himself why would you want to be with someone who smokes pot just RUN and dont look back and youll be glad you did
2006-12-15 01:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you've got the answer! going for him will just make you work yourself to death for him... he ought to be working! but if you really like him and want to give him a try, state your conditions--he has to quit smoking pot (slowly but surely), he has to work and earn enough to pay ALL his expenses and save, and he ought to be the one taking care of his mum!!!!!
omg, it certainly IS NOT right.
2006-12-15 01:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by wat_more_can_i_say? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, don't date the loser. Yes, run the other way immediately.
2006-12-15 01:37:56 · answer #8 · answered by Patricia 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
RUN, do not walk to the first exit NOW
2006-12-15 01:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
why not let him move in with you and u can support him. at 46 he should have some type of plan even if its a pistol and ski mask.
2006-12-15 01:37:49 · answer #10 · answered by reno_tony_casino 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋