I know the polite thing to do is to go to the party I was invited to first and this was my intention, then the second person who invited me INSISTED that I come (btw, the first person is a friend and the second is family.) Would it be okay if I want to one party for a bit, left early and went late to the next party? I really don't know what to do. Both girls will be offended if I tell them I can't make it.
2006-12-14 17:32:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I feel you can go to both parties..
I would suggest working out which one you would prefer to go, or will have more fun..
By the sounds of it.. Family should be first.. get it out of the way..
fast.
Then head to your friends party.. - let them know you will be late due to family.. but you WILL be there with Bells on .. Ready to Party
2006-12-14 18:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by A Lady Dragon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This has happened to my husband and me many times. We have learned over the years that, once you've accepted an invitation, that's where you need to be. To do otherwise makes the first one feel disrespected....it's like telling them "Sorry, got a better offer."
The time to make this determination was when the second invitation was made. That's when you say, "Sorry, I have already made other plans. However, if time allows, I'll try to make it."
Incidentally, for your family member to insist you come there seems a bit controlling. Especially if you've told her about the first invitation. Even sounds a bit rude. Good luck and I hope this advice aids you in making good choices.
2006-12-15 07:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by Rembrandt11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the second one you have a previous engagement and if it is ok to be late as you have commited to the other one already. To make sure they know you will come ask them what you can bring so that they can expect you to show up with it. Tell the first about the predicament so that they will not be offended when you leave early. Better late than never.
2006-12-15 01:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see the word insisted is capitalized.....Does this seems more of a command to you ?Go to both of them. " It is a party "......Most people hate leaving a good party to go elsewhere......so figure out which one you think you will have the most fun at and then take that party in last. That way, you won't get caught up in having fun and " Ooops....miss the other party entirely.
2006-12-15 07:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by Blondie B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If going to both doesn't disrupt either, then do so, otherwise go to the first and the second will have to understand. (and learn to invite your earlier next time)
2006-12-15 01:42:19 · answer #5 · answered by Rita 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is totally okay to go to both, but if you would rather go to one over the other, then go to the one you really want to! I know you might upset one of them, but they will get over it.
2006-12-15 02:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by Jacqui D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have told the 2nd person you already had previous plans and leave it at that.
2006-12-15 08:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both go to one stay a while than go to the other n stay a while that way they cant say u didnt show
2006-12-15 01:41:35 · answer #8 · answered by Quiana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whitch ever party is the pimpest. I would assume your friend's party will be gangsturrr.
2006-12-15 01:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by Julio 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you can go to both.
2006-12-15 01:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋