I mean, it's not like our job requires us to be competitive. It's just that she always has to one-up me, even about stupid stuff that doesn't even matter to me. Should I just keep ignoring her or say something. Urgh, she's so frustrating!!!
2006-12-14 17:31:48 · 18 answers · asked by Liadan 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Try some deep breathing and remember that what you're dealing with is an insecure little girl trapped in a grown woman's body. The key is to just endure her gracefully by focusing solely on whatever the task at hand is. That's what she wants you to do is to react, it's the "Grand On-Up" because then she gets to complain about you and dramatize it and possible create even more trouble for you. I feel like she's threatened by you and therefore is trying to "prove" she can hang by trying to seem better. That's what insecure people tend to do at times, when someone is putting someone else down they're only reflecting what they feel and are saying to themselves about themselves internally.
Don't let her steal your serenity or your peace of mind. Keep a positive thought or thoughts in your mind, ready at all times to use as a distraction when you're near her or she's done something. Focus on something really good and on being happy. Choose to just be happy and to not even recognize her. Treat her indifferently, almost as if she doesn't even exist in your world WHEN she is exhibiting this behavior. When and if she is ever nice, reward her with your attention. Good luck, but don't forget to focus on keeping your calm and serenity and your happiness. Don't give her the power to dictate your mood or how you feel. And rest assured that others around both of you see her for what she is. Your ability to remain calm, cool, and collected will be in your favor. Good luck. I wish you joy and happiness and all the blessings of the season.
Mabel
2006-12-14 17:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 15⤊ 0⤋
Ignorance is a bliss...
I think it's just best to ignore her and move on with your work.. Do what you can with your work, love your job and make good progress with it at the same time..
Maybe if you keep ignoring her, she'll eventually get tired of being competitive / bossy.. It wouldn't help you too if you entertain such attitudes of hers..
All the best!
2006-12-14 21:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by dt_aiying 2 · 13⤊ 0⤋
i always encounter this type of people when i get a new job and i think that this is normal. we cannot please everybody and no matter where we go or who we meet, in a certain environment there are always people who are like that. always in your face and trying to make you feel bad about yourself. do what i did, always come to work neatly dressed, always have a smile in your face and ignore her. show her that she is like air, invicible and almost non existent! lol. that will totally piss her off and make her bust some fumes. on the meantime, just focus on your work and stick with people who appreciate you and make you feel good about yourself. sooner or later, that co-worker of yours will be the one to tire out of bullying you or putting you down. hold your head up high as the song says! godbless
2006-12-14 17:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Acidburn 2 · 14⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell who-ever is bigger up than them. however the ingredient is this mean you get extra problems from her if it backfires. the terrific way is to triumph over her at each and every thing. in actuality do each and every thing she asks to the terrific in many situations occurring, and extra. somebody will comprehend she is penalising you for doing a physically powerful activity
2016-10-14 23:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by schwalm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have run up against that many time, and there really isn't much you can do except be the more mature one and try to ignore her, for some reason people like that if you react. seem to assume you are jealous of them for whatever reason. As long as you are doing your job correctly and efficiently then don't worry about her, she will be her own undoing.
2006-12-14 17:34:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mystee_Rain 5 · 14⤊ 1⤋
Ignore her comments and stay focussed with your work, it could be a tactic for her to demoralise you and make you frustrated. In fact if you show that youre not bothered and that you dont care she will get bored of doing it! she'll reduce and then stop.. dont pay attention and show that u dont care.. let bygones be bygones, BUT do NOT let her demean you in your boss's presence
2006-12-14 17:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by Vicky 2 · 13⤊ 0⤋
She could be looking for affirmation. Try words of praise and look to encourage a more team approach to your daily tasks. If you have that attitude you will soon see what her motivations are. If it's good you will have a excellent partner. If It's bad she will be exposed as not being a team player. Which looks good for you.
Win Win for you;)
2006-12-14 17:39:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 14⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she is insecure and does this because she feels bad about herself. If you don't continue pushing the issue, it'll stop. For example, let's say that you finish the work project, and she finished hers faster, she might say, "I finished faster than you." At which point, instead of saying, "Yeah, but my project was longer," you could simply say, "Wow, impressive!" and then get back to your work.
2006-12-14 17:37:41 · answer #8 · answered by drshorty 7 · 13⤊ 1⤋
it's called intimidation
2006-12-14 17:34:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 14⤊ 1⤋
Theres really nothing you can do. You cant complain to your supervisor about her working to hard.
2006-12-14 17:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by J. R 3 · 9⤊ 5⤋