i have been dating this guy for 5yrs..and he lives in a diff counrty now..we have been having a lot of fights and and lot of disagreements..he called me last night and said he's really busy and im puttin a lot of stress on him..in a way i was puttin stress..i wanted him to keep in touch with me most of the times which was difficult for him..
so i understood his prob..was ready to give him his space..but he said that he will marry me only coz he promised me so and he really doesnt want to marry me..i said i wanted to take a break for a week..so that i will think over all these things..
now i dont knw what to do..should i break up or should i not take a break and call him..its a 5yr relatnship..and it was ouch when he said he doesnt wanna marry.. plz help
2006-12-14 17:16:19 · 17 answers · asked by sweetiepie123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should hold on to what you have, if hes too busy, he's stressed, sure you should give him some time.
But you've been together for five years! i say that is a very long time, tell him you love him because you do, tell him how you feel, but please don't attack him, just tell him and tell him to share his feelings.
from there try to work out your problems, you know that if you break up now, you'll just miss him later on.
Don't worry, it's possible to fall in love again to the same person.
2006-12-14 17:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by Vertigo addict 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is wise to take a break not just for you but both of you just to think things thru. Five years is not a short time, considering there quote were made while both of you were angry at each other, then I think there is no point to pull the plug just because of a little misunderstanding.
2006-12-14 17:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by maggotier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ruin up at the instant are not ordinary, yet what i will inform you it does circulate away the 1st week is tough yet your pals will help. do no longer sit down around and stay on it for extra then an afternoon or 2. it particularly is okay to be disillusioned for an afternoon or 2 yet after which you would be able to desire to circulate out consisting of your pals and have relaxing i promise it relatively is going to help and previously you recognize it, you recognize it she will in simple terms be a theory with out discomfort. do no longer stress to lots approximately being with somebody, in simple terms hang around and enjoy your pals and a sparkling dating will locate you! i'm sorry i desire it get extra useful .
2016-10-14 23:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by schwalm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah man, pain like that is really hard to recover from but start now, don't dread it for so long because if you keep thinking about it you'll probably just go back. If he feels you're a disturbance then drop him, you should never be called a disturbance or distraction in a relationship...
2006-12-14 17:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by orejitas285 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think, Think and Think. Take lot of time to think. Before marriage its easy to break Up but after marriage its difficult to break. You will be stamped as divorcee ( second Hand) So think thoroughly. Better go for arrange marriage. Your parents & laws will support for long life.
2006-12-14 18:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by rockylike007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time and decide. There is no hurry. If he wants you with all your heart, he will marry you. But don't say yes just because he says he wants to marry as he promised you. Don't give your answer, just hold until you will know what to do.
2006-12-14 17:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance is also in a diff country but he is loving, kind, compassionate and constantly telling me how much he wants to be with me. A man that stays with out ONLY out of duty is a man that will stray, cheat, a man that will not treat you right.
Give him his space, see what he does. He is either willing to just let you go or he is going to realize that he needs you and wants you. Be careful with this man, he could hurt your heart.
2006-12-14 17:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should breakup w/o giving it a last try , you have been together for 5 years ,get together and take a break a holiday sort of ,talk openely share your feelings ,refresh your love make it fresh as young and even after that you feel its not working theres no other chance then to ........
2006-12-14 19:47:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that coz of the distance he is feeling that he will not be able to sustain the relation. Talk to him on this regard and convince him, that the distance is not affecting your love towards him.
Even if he feels the same way, then give up the relation.
2006-12-14 17:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by AB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really sad.....i can understand how u feel. u have to make him realise ur importance in his life. he has taken u for granted. so may be u can stop calling him for few days....and even if u write mails...make it very short....
if he misses u...then he would definitly make an effort to call u and apologise for his behaviour. if not then...just forget him
2006-12-14 18:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by preeti_kar_18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋