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We are in a new relationship and since the start my GF have been fighting with me and hurting me mentally for no reason and so finally after months i said i cant hold it any longer and we breaked-off, now she says she wont do it again and after a lot of talks she finally said she was acting like tht because she was angry frm inside because while proposing i've said its for short-term & tht we are free to go whenever we need to.

She still said yes at tht time as she thought she would change me, but she have failed to revert my decision.

Besides this, we loved each other, i care for her like anything etc...

Now she wana be together again.

What shall i do?
And plz tellme whos fault was this in the break-up ? after reading this...
I think i been fair frm the very start by telling her the truth...
Shall i take her back?

And yes, dont tell follow ur heart - coz i am screwed!

2006-12-14 17:05:28 · 11 answers · asked by Noel 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

11 answers

well the balls in your court. So you set the terms. They should go alittle something like this.

Blowjobs in the morning and the evening, and if your not to busy, the afternoon as well

When you tell her to get undressed, she doesn't give you any back talk, she just takes her clothes off and starts dancing to some sexy music.

She cooks cleans and does your laundry except for on holidays, she can take those days off.

It's not a question of if you have sex, its when, and she damn well better like it or she's getting tossed to the curb.

Enjoy.

2006-12-14 17:12:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

In the end, you have to remember that it's your life and you have to do what you feel is right and what makes you happy. You say you both want to leave your current partners, so you should. Breaking up with someone is never easy and there's no way around the hurt feelings that will probably follow. But also, it is not really fair to your current partner or this girl's boyfriend to stay in a relationship that you don't want to be in. I think you both will feel better once you leave your current partners, then see what happens from there. Best of luck.

2016-05-24 18:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

oh man to tell you to follow your heart would just be the wrong thing by so many yards...

you need to let her go, if a person hurts you like that then all of a sudden comes out with they'll change, that is a bunch of bullshevick!!!

you need time apart so you yourself can note the change and be able to to make your judgement then.

But for right now I think you're still used to the idea of having someone there for you, just give yourself time to recover from this so you can function properly again...I'm telling she'll just tear you apart right now.

2006-12-14 17:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by orejitas285 2 · 0 0

Has she had some previous history with another guy?
From what you are saying, she is afraid of getting to close to you. Since you proposed this to be a short-term relationship, she doesn't want to get too close,and everytime she mentally hurts you, she is testing you, to see how much you can take, and whether you will actually dump her or not(stupid...I know...but it happens...I've done it). It seems like she wants to find someone who truly cares about her, and a long-term relationship. She is afraid that if she let herself care about you too much, she will only be disappointed later when you plan on dumping her for someone else.

If you are not ready to change your mind about the relationship, then no, you should not take her back. Because she will most likely try to hurt you again(kinda like getting back at you for not letting this proceed any further. And because she does care about you a lot, and is trying to find a reason for her to hate you...when the time comes and this short term relationship must end).

How can you truly LOVE someone, and yet proclaim that it will be a short term relationship?

If you feel that you are ready for a long term relationship, then yes, you can give her another chance. She will probably still lash out(to see if you really mean it when you say "long-term" or to see whether you really love/care about her), and if you really do love her, then stick with her.

I had been in an abusive relationship before my bf. Neither of us were planning on a long term(though I would've liked it), and slowly, the time just increased, and now we're at 3 years. And during the first 2 years, I would lash out emotionally at him, cause I was expecting him to hurt me, so I figured I should hurt him first(stupid...I know...). But after a rough 2 years(we broke up a few times, then got back together, etc etc), he stuck with me that whole entire time, he allowed me room to grow, and realize that he was here to stay. He had also remained to be my best friend during that time, someone I could confide in about anything(even about other boys lol). We have been together for a total of 3 years now,and still going strong. I have stopped all the lashing out.

So perhaps if you do love her, then it is a possibility to consider a long term relationship. Or if you want to give her another chance, then go for it, and let her know that whatever happens happens. Tell her that you are willing to give her another chance, and that your proposal of "short-term" is not set in stone(unless it really is...then please refer back to my question that I asked about love and short term relationships) and that you want to see how this relationship progresses. If you are both enjoying yourself, and love each other, then obviously, it would last longer. So if she keeps up with hurting you all the time, and you really REALLY can't take it anymore, then she will be the cause of her own downfall. If at anytime it begins to feel like emotional abuse, tell her about it. If she does not change(even just a little, or hurt you less frequently), then it is not worth it to hold on. Over the first 2 years of my relationship, I decreased in the amount of times I have hurt my bf. Of course...I always felt bad for hurting him and would make it up to him by being extra nice. I guess it really depends on how much she is willing to trust, and how far you are willing to go.

I wish you both the best of luck.

Err...sorry if the actual topics in this post is a little sporatic...Kinda just wrote what popped into my head. :P

2006-12-14 17:42:50 · answer #4 · answered by Vaynthe 3 · 0 0

No, don't take her back. It doesn't sound like a healthy relationship.

I would lean towards her being more at fault than you; but both parties involved are always at fault in some way, for something.

Call it good, learn what you can from it, and move on.

2006-12-14 17:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Good for you for dumping her!!!Don't let people walk over you!You can't change people! so she will do it again unless her issues are completely resolved. Short term relationships for me are a waste of time, rather wait for a person you think you want to go out with for a long time.

2006-12-14 17:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by viciousmishious 1 · 0 0

The fault was hers, for you had made your intentions clear from the begining. No one can change anyone, make that clear, but definately give her a second chance. All the best.

2006-12-14 17:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0 0

sounds like both of you have problems that need to worked out, i say stay apart for a while and if you guys feel you cant be without each other than take her back. but if you dont miss her or anything than just leave it alone.

2006-12-14 17:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by Adrian N. 2 · 0 0

take her back. maybe she has changed for the better. what do you have to loose into tryign the relationship again? you still ove her and everything. and if she starts acting liek how she was then break up for good.

2006-12-14 17:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

If you really love her and she's sorry then get back together ...... doesn't every body deserve a 2ND chance and she did say sorry work it out ....... she said what she had to say and if she does do it again then break-up

I wish u2 happiness
Bye
(Lil 'sita)

2006-12-14 17:16:59 · answer #10 · answered by Lil 'sita 1 · 0 0

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