I'm 19 and this 27 year old guy who works with me likes me. I like him and everything but the age scares me. I don't know what do. Should i throw caution to the wind and try to see what happens? Or should i just be friends with him? Is there any of you out there dating a way older man or woman? Help PLEASE!
2006-12-14 16:58:56 · 36 answers · asked by Ashe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is not "very old"
and you sound like you could be a mature 19 yr old
and you say you like him and he likes you
there is nothing wrong in going out with him and both of you getting to know each other
2006-12-14 17:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by Fabperson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there's no policy against it in your office, go for it but don't "throw caution to the wind"! In fact don't make any commitment until you see what he's all about. He could end up to be really boring, or he could be a player. This is the time that you are learning how to spot signs of trouble, and the age difference could mean he has more experience in getting away with things.
2006-12-14 17:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by Kacky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who dated a man ten years old than myself, I will see what I can do. I would depend on a lot of factors typically they are after one thing...
I would suggest maybe going out not as a date, but maybe just a get to know you type thing. If he is reluctant to go out into public with you...he is scared of what people might think of the age difference. However if he does not care that could be a good sign.
Take it slow and feel your way through it. One thing I remember is that we got bored with me...I mean I was young and he was old. I wanted to stay up late and have a good time....he wanted to stay home and do nothing. No my idea of a good time at 18.
You will know if it isn't going to work. Good luck!!
2006-12-14 17:03:50 · answer #3 · answered by ~Just A Girl~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he's good to you age dosn't matter. See what happens but be careful. You only live once. I don't recomend going out with co-workers but I don't know everything.19-27 is not much of an age difference. I'm 23 and my boyfriend is 44. We've been together 10 months and we're doing great.
2006-12-14 17:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by IrishGirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dated a guy who was 17 years older than me. We have been happily married for 2 years now. You are only talking about 8 years. If you were under age it would be a problem, but you are an adult and so is he. Have fun!
2006-12-14 17:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jinny E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eight years older when you are in your 40's is no big deal, but 8 years when you are 19 is. A man that dates a very young girl is looking for someone not as worldly and mature. That way they can be the one in charge. Great for them but not for you. Keep it closer to 20 to 22. That is about the same maturity level.
And does he have kids?
You'll want your own kids without the burden of the ex and his/her kids.
You're young, get a fresh one....
2006-12-14 17:03:33 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ ♥ C.J. ♥ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say go for it. 8 years really isn't all that much when you are both adults. The only issue I can see is that you are not of legal drinking age which means that if he wants to hang out at a bar or a club, you probably will not be able to join him.
2006-12-14 17:02:58 · answer #7 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I know you are probably tired of hearing that all a man wants from you is sex. Well honey, it's true. This man may actually like you, but in a few weeks or a month he will begin pressuring you to have sex with him. Once you start having sex, dating will end, and all you will do is have sex. He will see you talking to a guy friend, and ask you who he was, if you're sleeping with him, where you've been, who you've been with, what you've been doing....Stick with guys your own age.
2006-12-14 17:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are 25, he will be 33. That doesn't sound so bad, does it? There's absolutely no reason why this age difference should be a problem in the long term.
However, at your age you are still relatively immature and lacking in experience, so a man of his age could take advantage of that. If you like him, date him, but be cautious.
2006-12-14 17:01:23 · answer #9 · answered by Kylie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive dated a man 11 years older and because men are naturally more immature than women, we were almost on the same level.
Sure, give it a shot, if you find him attractive, that is. If you'd never put out to him, don't waste his time with tease.
2006-12-14 17:05:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry so much about the age, but most of the time work place romances do not last. Just be really careful and make sure that this guy is not married.
2006-12-14 17:03:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋