i'm asian and she's canadian, I went out for 6 months with her since summer, we broke up about 1 and a half week ago, she's 20 i'm 21, I was her longest relationship, she has trouble committing.. i treated her like princess... she said i was her first love, first partner, she gave me everything, but lately we argue more and more because she seems to put less effort into relationship. and we have broken up because of it before but we got back together right away. but then this argument came up and it was intense, i yelled, she swore.. she never want to work it out with me, she just wanted to let it go and acted like nothing happen.. I know she's still immature about relationship. but i love her very much. While she was still mad, she said that we're incompatible,never could be together again, now that she's not mad, i know she misses me but she doesn't say, and i also know she has trouble committing still.... i dunno if i can ever get her back , it's killing me, help me please
2006-12-14 16:54:47 · 12 answers · asked by tele t 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
since we've broken up it seems that she can't stand not talking to me for more than a day , i usually just stay put.. but she kept messaging me... does that mean she's just seeking emotional comfort? or is there any chance at all??? i never initiate conversation at all , but she's now messaging me more often i dunno if it's a sign that she's comfortable as a friend or... and now we're meeting for lunch tmr. cuz she asked me if i was free.. should i bring it up??
2006-12-14 16:55:13 · update #1
definately. she could be stringing you along, and you don't need to make yourself available to being used. she might just be confused, but do you really want to be with someone like that? you are still young and there are so many other girls out there who are ready for commitment. don't be the nice guy. don't let her walk all over you. you are too sweet of a person to waste it on someone who is obviously not ready.
2006-12-14 16:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone has trouble committing try not to argue and yell. Because the more you hurt her the more she puts up that wall and pulls away. Since you've been together six months you've obviously jumped into this pretty fast. And well Canadians can be kinda moody anyway. But yeah you all definetly have a chance. She obviously wants to be with you, but it too scared of you leaving her and being hurt. Just talk to her. Tell her how you feel. That is what she needs to overcome this
2006-12-14 17:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by ProudToBeWhite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the arguements starts again, this should be a sign that it just will not work. Good relationship requires work on both parts. If she says that you two are incompatible, you might be.
2006-12-14 17:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me she is just trying to be nice, and stay friends. Everyone gets in arguments, so if she cant handle it she does not love you enough to make it work, you should find another women when you are ready to and you will see that it takes two people compromising to work in this lifetime. Trust me she does not know what she wants and wants you to kiss her ***! Be careful I know I am a women!!!!
2006-12-14 16:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don`t bring it up, but do go out for lunch with her. She could feel as if you are smothering her, and this may be the problem she is having. Play it a little bit more cool with her, as if you do not need her as much as you did. Try not to wear your heart on your sleeve.
2006-12-14 16:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting into arguements and yelling does not mean there is no love. it is a part of relationship. Yes she misses you, and wants to come back. maybe she wants you to take initiative. Win her back. will be good for both of you.
2006-12-14 17:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act as though nothing happened
2006-12-14 16:59:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no girl can find a guy that loves her so go back and pick your battles they have to be big enough to mater but small Enough to win
2006-12-14 17:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by im always right 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother being friends. I'm serious. Keep her out of sight and find another girl.
This sounds cold and crude but its the damn truth.
2006-12-14 16:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by Steam_Monkey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for it!!!! there is nothing else you can possibly lose... Trust me if it is true love it will work...
2006-12-14 17:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋