what do you do if a co worker is incredibly annoying??

Question

She never shuts up! i dont want to be rude but i almost think she needs it! nobody likes hearing her. what can i do or say to her???????

i have to add... i ignore but she makes her way into other peoples conversations and talks about herself. i've ignored!!!! doesnt get the hint now what?

Answer 1

I know this sounds drastic, but it is better to do it now than later. In your loudest most angry voice say, "SHUT THE F**K UP *****!" Might as well get it over with.

Answer 2

This is a good problem for the staff to take to the boss. Since not getting along with others often reflects on both parties, confrontation with a co-worker is not always the best idea. Perhaps you and the other staff could talk to your boss and discuss the problem. Then the boss can take appropriate action. Sometimes telling someone to shut up makes you feel better but it doesn't actually solve anything. The boss needs to sit this bucket mouth down and explain how distasteful her constant talking and bragging is and perhaps give her some good career advice. It's possible the gal doesn't know what a bore she is but more likely, it's just that she has an arrogant, self-centered personality. If that's the case then your outburst will not solve the problem, and in fact, could make you a target for her rantings. It may take more than one staff person complaining to the boss but it doesn't sound like that's going to be a problem. Good luck.

Answer 3

Perhaps this person is very insecure. I suspect that if you listened to her a little bit she might not have the need to do this all the time; she might just want to be heard. Maybe you could ask her to eat lunch with you?

If the conversation she is interrupting is work-related, and her interruption prevents you from getting your work done, you could approach her alone and say very kindly, "Jill, I think it's great to have an outgoing attitude. But when you came and talked to me and John today when we were talking about work, it made it hard for me to get my work done efficiently." Or, after more thought, maybe it would be better for the supervisor to have this conversation with her. But confronting her in an aggressive way, especially in front of coworkers, would be inappropriate.

Answer 4

It sounded at first like she was talking and interrupting your work. But then the truth came out that you just don't want her to butt into your conversations.

Thus, you are leaving her out.

How about including her in the conversations, or talking to her at another time? She probably talks because she is lonely and feels left out because you are mean and never talk to her!!

I am saying this b/c I identify with that person. I am always the outcast. How do you think she feels being treated like that? How would you feel?

Answer 5

She must not get much attention at home, just say something polite and make a joke out of her talking so much. Then if that fails say something to her but in a nice way. Happy Holidays and Best Wishes.

Answer 6

Ignore her! If she realizes noone is listening then maybe she will shut up. It always seems there is one in every crowd.

Answer 7

she is getting into other conversations cause she wants to be heard. she feels ignored, and wants to be noticed. maybe you could find a way to include her, so she doesn't feel she has to do this to be noticed.

Answer 8

Easy! If she's your co-worker, you're at work. Keep working and ignore her. You're not at work to socialize. Be polite and keep busy.

Answer 9

Tell her to shut up. Tell her that you are not trying to hurt her feelings but that it gets on your nerves.

Answer 10

you say ;shut the flak up
you do not have to like it when you are rude.