how in the world do i get pass something like this?

Question

well to start i have a sister who is a single parent and has two kids. well her 5 yr old has been causing her problems for almost 5 yrs. she has not given him any home training what so ever. he is beyond the word bad. he is something serious. my entire family knows this. well the other day she called me and asked me if i would discipline him for her cause he doesnt listen at all to her. well he is my nephew, so i said ok. well i gave him a spanking the way we did when i was growing up. so he went to school and the teacher seen the marks and now they have put me on record for child abuse. i didnt get charged but im on record. i have no peace right now. i wasnt trying to abuse him and everyone knows it. even those people at child protective services know it. they said she can bring him around me but cant leave him alone with me. i feel like a criminal, even though i know i shouldnt. i asked god to help with my peace. how can i get pass this. plz no smart remarks.

Answer 1

well as far as im concerned the world is well on its way to turning into a bunch of pansies. the government should not be allowed to tell you how to discipline your kids. when i was young i got my *** whipped and im glad for it. if i was you id do it again. by the way the marks are probably because he has never been whooped.

Answer 2

This is why brats, snots, and girls with attitudes that need SERIOUS adjustment come from. The freaking police are like "No thats wrong" and saying thats wrong is wrong. If parents can't physically harm the kids then how are they going to punish them. My suggestion use a phone book next time. Leave no marks!!!

Addition: Cameron is right, the retards who are like "No touching the kids, it will affect their lives morally." is turning the country into a land of frollicing unicorns, and flaries flying around. Also the people who usually do this are kids who were punished this way, who look beyond the reason as to why parents do this. I used to get spankings until my parents stopped for some reason, and I understood why I got spankings when I was 5 or ect. Although here is where the people are right: When your uncle pulls you by the feet hurls you around upside down and slaps you on the arm a couple of times (this actually happened to me I can remember it like it was yesterday) so i was a kid who got abused (my parents sent the uncle to anger management which I think which i sorta agree with that because I was 5 and acted really brattingly) and yet I still say that the people who put parents in jail for punishing their kids with spankings. I should march up to those people and say to their faces that they are horribly wrong. Although marks on someone's skin means you did do it a little to hard.

I would suggest go up to the frieking child protection services and tell ask them what should you do then.

Answer 3

first of all...forgive yourself. If it was truly not abuse, you have to come to peace with yourself. So start that journey.

Although your nephew needs the discipline, you must understand it needs to come from his parents. Of course, you as his aunt may correct him between right and wrong. Just nothing physical, including arm grabbing.

Unfortunately too many youths are out of control because of the lackadaisical disciplinary methods parents are using.

I don't know about you, but when I see an unruly child of 14 and under, I blame the parents for ignoring their problem.

Answer 4

you could carry one energetic quick pass at a time, till your pass is more desirable than 2 hours out. then you actually can get a short pass after 2 hours. Your quick pass will list the time that you'll get a sparkling one on the bottom. you also could have quick passes at different parks, as they are not proper up. also, a short pass to the Indiana Jones educate does no longer ward off you from getting holiday quick pass.

Answer 5

It was not your place to spank him. I would never touch children that were not mine.. But I think you have learned that lesson. Time heals things pretty fast. In a week it will all be forgotten. You did what you did and you can't change that, it's in the past. Look to the future. Spend this next week working a little harder in school and spending some fun time with friends. We all make mistakes or use wrong judgment, that's how we learn and grow. Good luck

Answer 6

I was spanked, I spank my children but you have to know your limits. keep on disciplining him but now that you actually spanked him he should listen good on just threats. If not just swat him a little one, and threaten that if he doesnt behave then he will get another big one like he got before, I didnt agree with threatening your kids but sometimes..... But also my brother had ADHD and yelling and screaming and beating never worked with him. he had to get rewards for the good and no rewards for being bad. Like bedtime snacks and special treats on the weekends if he behaved during the week. Never worked 100% but did for the most part

Answer 7

your sister should have never put you in that predicament. it is not your responsibility to discipline him, even though he is your nephew. if she doesn't take matters into her own hands, he will never have respect for her. as for the other situation, you and your sister both know that you meant no harm to the child. i'm not sure what the laws are where you live, but i'm sure that child protective services will take care of everything. you said that they know you meant no harm, so let them do what they do. just be sure to be kept informed on what's going on so that noone tries to pull the wool over your eyes. you need to know what's going on so you can defend yourself if need be. best of luck and try not to worry too much.

Answer 8

My mother used to beat me with the buckle end of a belt on a regular basis and nobody had a care... I don't understand how things got this way. I never physically hit my own children but I got a large wooden spoon that you cook with and I would threaten them with it. The worst I ever had to do was smack it up against my own hand. The sound was enough to send them running. Seriously, you should not be feeling responsible for disciplining your sister's child. Its a no-win situation. If she doesn't end up getting mad at you, you are opening yourself to legal charges. Tell her to deal with it.

Answer 9

i know what you r feeling. if a child goes to school with just about any mark on them, the school is automatically responsible to call the child protective services. it's scary for you to even spank a child anymore because YOU can get in trouble for it. society is just so messed up anymore. there is no way to get around it.

Answer 10

My friend, spanking is ok, i think,as ling as it is not beating you know what I mean? I use to be slapped, soap in my mouth and everything when I was growing up and I have respect for myself and others. The best way is to talk about things. Dont feel guilty for that though because you have to do what your heart tells you to and learn from it! Good luck !