Ok. I've been dating a woman for 9 months and she has never slept over at my house. What does this mean? Should I worry about it? My house is very nice and there is no reason that I can see why she wouldn't. She says she is just set in her ways. I just don't get it. I sleep at hers all the time. She knows it bothers me but she still won't. I think its just weird.
2006-12-14 16:25:23 · 16 answers · asked by t_elizabeth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's all about territory and possession.
Be grateful shes different, most girls start laying down their markers eg a pair of knickers left here and there, toothbrush left over etc..
Enjoy it while you can.
2006-12-14 16:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you live alone or have roommates? Are there any pets in the equation? Sometimes it's not your home and you that your significant other is uncomfortable with, but the other people and things in that environment.
I don't think you have much to worry about the moment that she is totally comfortable with your sleeping over her place. If she never wanted to spend the night with you ANYWHERE, that would be cause to worry. Should the relationship evolve into something more serious, you may need to start discussing living arrangement.
2006-12-14 16:31:23 · answer #2 · answered by that girl 47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might just be more comfortable at her place, but if it bothers you it still isn't a good thing. And seeing as you've talked to her about it and she's not willing to make a concession, well that's not so great either. It wouldn't kill her to leave her comfort zone for someone she cares about, so I'll agree it is weird. Perhaps try talking to her about it once more.... if she's still not willing to bend you'll either have to live with it or, well, maybe consider moving on. If this is the only problem though, I'd just keep working on it and see what happens futher down the road. Good luck!
2006-12-14 16:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's one of those people who can't sleep with out their own things. A special pillow, her comfy mattress, a night light? Any number of things. Maybe she doesn't want you to stay the night at her house either and she's just having a hard time telling you no. You know, kind of an old fashioned gal. Saving herself for marriage, or keeping up appearances with the nosy neighbors who might notice she was gone all night. It could be any number of things. As long as your relationship is solid I wouldn't sweat over it.
2006-12-14 16:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by sixcannonballs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I shall assume ure a boy even though ur avartar clearly potrays urself nothing less than a girl. I think the reason she dosent sleep over at ur house is because her sleepin over at ur house might lead to something else. In other words, she dosent want to get too intimate with u yet.
2006-12-14 16:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she is probably too nervous about sleeping over at someone elses house that she only knew for 3/4 a year. I guess you need to date her somemore
2006-12-14 16:29:10 · answer #6 · answered by e-chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is tired of sleeping in the same house with you.
2006-12-14 16:29:31 · answer #7 · answered by DFlavor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has her rules and she is just been nice by letting you sleep at her place. Just ask her and I am sure she will tell you why.
2006-12-14 16:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by nickname 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a long hot bath together. It should help you relax and get a good conversation going.
2006-12-14 16:31:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I come to sleep at your house instead?
2006-12-14 16:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by shez_a_maneater 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋