Would you be mad if you and your hubby didn't want any family in the room when your baby was born cause you feel like that is a private moment and then your mother in law said she had her ear to the door listening the whole time? I'm kinda ticked.
2006-12-14 16:17:36 · 13 answers · asked by honeybear 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Wow that is crazy because Me and hubby were talking about the same thing and my mother in law said she wanted to be in there. Since we don't want anyone in there everybody is ticked off at us. We don't care though. I would be pissed if she was sitting there listening to our conversation. Where is the privacy! I know how you feel though because I am living with my mother in law and she is always just walking in our room and butting in on our conversations and it just drives me freakin nuts. Well congrats on the baby.
2006-12-14 16:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by I_Can_Help 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If your husband didn't want anyone in the room, then that was fine. His Mother however should have respected his wishes. I would also be ticked off at her. She had no right to invade your privacy. Discuss this with your husband, let him know that it has upset you. Then try to move on and forget it. I can guarantee you this won't be the first time she will invade on you. Good Luck and Congratulations on you new baby.
2006-12-14 16:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by justcurious 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We did not want anyone in the room with us either. Personal FAMILY time!
I would not be mad. She respected your wishes. She didn't come inside. This baby is a big part of her life too and she was excited. Don't be upset with her.
Give her that chance to love that baby! You'll be amazed at the bond between grandparents and our kids. My kids are 9 and 7 and watching them with their grandparents is wonderful and touching.
Don't let it bother you.
2006-12-14 17:05:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me personally I would say only my husband.
When our daughter was born it was just the delivery staff and us.
It was, for us an extremely private moment, one that we only wanted to share between us.
Family members need to respect the wishes of parents.
The fact that the mother in law had her ear to the door wouldn't phase me too much as my logic would be - you may have heard it, but you weren't in the moment to share it.
At the end of the day, you had the one person there that you wanted and needed and the ones that you didn't weren't.
;o)
2006-12-14 16:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Heck ya, but at least be happy your mother in law didnt do what mine did, & sneak into the room while I was pushing...Oh 2 yeras later I still resent it & wish I would have said something back then. I am pregnant with our 3rd & I am not telling her I am at the hospital until I have the baby! I would say something to her, otherwise it may eat at you as it eats at me... everytime she gets on my nerves I think of it & get furious, but it is too late to say anything
2006-12-14 16:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think maybe I would if I asked her not to in the first place, but I wouldn't ruin any relationship you have over it, she was after all only excited. I remember at first not wanting anyone, then while it was happening I could not care less if a marching band strolled through lol.
2006-12-14 16:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by Shadow Kat 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Kind of, but don't let that ruin it.
she heard the pain and missed what was oh so private which is the actual birth.
i think 1/2 the hospital heard me giving birth but as long as they couldnt see , that moment remains forever with me and the pple who I WANTED to be with me.
2006-12-14 16:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by J_Riiiiight R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope, there are far more things that would get me mad than someone listening in on the birth of their grandchild.
2006-12-14 17:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would irritate me, but don't let it define your relationship with her. Remember she is excited about having a new baby in the fmaily and she has probably forgotten what it is like to be the new mom. Also, if she is that excited, you will probably have a great resource for free babysitting!!! Remember one day YOU will be the MIL!!!
2006-12-14 16:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by LORI P 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i do know what you are saying but it is nice i had his mom my mom AND his sister lol but i don't care if your comfortable but i see you didnt want her by until baby was in your room totally understandbut if its already done and over with let it go she is grandma and thats special kinda nice gma wanted to be
2006-12-14 16:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by sportbike9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋