I'm finally dating someone who I really, really like. I'm in my mid 30's and he's exactly 10 years older. He's been divorced for about 2 years and has an 11 year old son. I'm the first woman he has slept with since his divorce. He's completely gorgeous, intelligent and fun, but hard to read. He can be very affectionate then completely unavailable (he's an Aquarius). Well, I just unexpectedly slept with my ex-boyfriend. I've been avoiding the guy because I knew it would be easy to sleep with him, but he showed up at my door. A few beers later, we came back to my place and had sex. I hate that I've done this. I have until tomorrow to figure out how to tell my current boyfriend. I can't just break up and not tell him. We were friends before we started dating. We will continue to talk and I can't keep this from him. How does a guy prefer his girlfriend to tell him that she cheated?
2006-12-14 15:56:03 · 6 answers · asked by Bodian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess one approach would be to just straight say it. It will save you a lot of pressure about how to do it. Just don't think about it do it. My opinion
2006-12-14 16:00:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand how he is because I am an Aquarius also.
I don't think there is any way of telling him this and things really being fine or okay. Anyway you tell him, he is going to lecture you at some point, act as if it does not effect him but it will totally eat him up inside.
Just be open with him, tell him how you really feel about what you've done, be honest. Maybe, at least you might still hold a friendship with him of some type. He may respect the fact of you being completely honest with him and not wasting any more of his time.
2006-12-15 00:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by ▒♥▒♥▒♥▒♥▒™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is never a good excuse for cheating. You can justify it anyway you want. If you are in a mutually monogamous relationship, then when you decided to cheat, you made a blatant choice to disrespect your relationship. Cheating is a complete betrayal of trust. You sound like you are carrying a whole lot of emotional baggage and unfortunately for the guy you are currently with, you are playing games with someone else's heart.
I think you should definitely tell him. Let him know you can't be trusted.
2006-12-15 00:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by Tori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex was an aquarius. loser.
first of all, it was wrong that you cheated, but at least you are trying to do the right thing by telling him.
i would just come out and say it, it's going to hurt him no matter how you say it. just be honest about it, be up front and blunt, get it all out so he can process and deal with it all at once.
are you planning on breaking up with him because of this, and if you are, are you going to get back with your ex?
2006-12-15 00:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A guy prefers you don't cheat.No easy way to tell him next thing could this happen again?he might give you one chance,but I would't bet on it or expect him to forgive you a second time
2006-12-15 00:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by timpossible1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt
dont make him miserable just to get over your "guilt"
You sound like a selfish chick
2006-12-15 00:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by lawman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋