My b/f and i broke up.. i want to try the let it go concept.. and if he comes back then we were ment to be...but i was talking to his cousin tonight who had just talked to him.. and he told her that it killed him that i told him that i didnt want to hear or see him... and he said that he would probably get used to the fact that we never talked and forget about me.... so he wants me to fight for him.. call him and see him.. while hes still hanging out with a friend.. that is a girl... its almost like he wants to see who wants him more...
what should i do.. i want to fight for him .. 6 years i dont want to give up.. but i dont like the fact that hes still seeing her... i want him to be done with her before we hang out again... hes only known her for 3 months.
Should i fight... or just give up
2006-12-14 15:42:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we broke up cuse he was having doubts.. and then things were going well with us hanging out... cuse i thought that she was out of the picture.. but she wasnt.. she wants him bad... but i want him more.. so thats when i told him to stop calling.. i didnt want to.. i just thought that if he missed me that it would help him come back to me...
2006-12-14 15:52:21 · update #1
Hun I am going to be honest with you now - I know you might not want to hear what it is I have to say, but you asked the question so here goes:
Some people (not only men) need to be fought for all the time. If you do fight this time and win him back... when will the next one be? If after 6 years together he still needs you to fight for him in order for him to be sure that you want him... then he has issues girl.
You should contact him once and tell him that you love him and that he means the world to you. Tell him that you cannot imagine your life without him. And then say to him that you are prepared to go to the ends of the earth for him... but that if he wants you back - he can fight for you for a change. Make sure he knows how you feel about him and then put the ball in HIS court!
Because try to hold on too tight to him - and you might end up loosing him. Most guys want girls who are comfortable with themselves and confident in who they are. So don't run after him... he will notice it and then he will know that he can do anything to you in future and you will always take him back.
2006-12-14 16:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by Aneska G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It always gets complicated when we have friends of the opposite gender. It sounds like you really like him but why would you even attempt something like this? You hurt him when you broke up with him and he may not want you back now. What was your reason for doing this again? You wanted to see if things would go back to normal if you get back together again? You just gave him a free card to find someone else, probably a particular new friend. You should have never given him up if you like him so much, things may never be the same even if you do get back together. This is not a very effective way to find out if your relationships will work, everyone involved in these types of situations gets hurt some way or another. He will probably just think you're jealous if you try to fight to get him back now. I think it may be too late. Stop wasting his and your time and let him move on. You will move on too, in a couple days or weeks.
2006-12-14 23:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ray 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the only reason you split up with him was to try the "let it go" concept than you are just playing games anyway. I cannot stand girls who only play mind games, and then want to call it love. That's playing games its not being in love with someone, or treating them as if you truly loved them. He would be best to go elsewhere until the day if ever, where you grow up and stop playing these petty games with peoples hearts.
-NmD!
2006-12-14 23:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then you need to figure out what you want and not play games with the poor man's heart. If he thinks you dont want him, he thinks you dont want him. What did you tell him your intentions were when you broke up with him? This sort of thing happened to my brother last year, with some girl playing mind games with him too. You need to put up or shut up. And if you told him to get lost, why do you need to fight. What you need to do is apologize to him tell him you made a mistake and beg for his forgiveness. If it is meant to be at that point and he can trust you then its all good again. if you need more help feel free to im me christine_welsh_mn
2006-12-14 23:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not fight for him.Get rid of the idea that you will get back together.He's hanging with her,and as long as he is,she will continue to talk you down to him,so her foot is planted in pretty good with him.Go find another guy,and don't let the lonely nights sway you into getting back with him.It won't work...Sorry.
2006-12-14 23:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd give up. Anyone who cares about you wouldn't put you through such a petty hell for any reason. It really does not make sure. That's alot of energy to waste to play someone else's mind games. Find something better to do.
Good luck, chic
2006-12-14 23:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by ▒♥▒♥▒♥▒♥▒™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have to 'fight' for anyone. you either care about each other or you don't. Who broke up with whom? Honestly, the best way to make someone want you is to act disinterested. Let him do the chasing.... if he doesn't then he wasn't worth your time anyway. good luck :)
2006-12-14 23:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by suz_e_q_zee 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
fighting for him you should ask yourself "is it all worth it?" you might end up being the second one on his priority list because he have found a new interest. try to weigh things over.
2006-12-15 00:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by beiyah^_^ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex wants to play games....buy him Monopoly for Christmas.
2006-12-14 23:55:28 · answer #9 · answered by Tori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then go talk to him and tell him that if you don't really want him yo hang-out with that girl because it hurts u. right? tell him if he really loves u he would do that.
2006-12-14 23:47:42 · answer #10 · answered by crimson_eyes 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋