K I am 15 and my b/f is 17. we have been together for a little over 2 months.
I just found out that he still has pictures of him and his ex still on his phone and i was browsing her myspace page and i came across a picture comment that he left her two days ago. He said "You look better in my bed" and he is always saying how she makes EVERYTHING funner.. im pretty sure he still has feelings for her. and im pretty jealous.
am i over reacting??
2006-12-14 15:40:56 · 35 answers · asked by lala 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
they dated about 2-3 years ago
2006-12-14 15:42:05 · update #1
omg! first i can't tell you enough how much i empathize with you. This exact same thing happened to me...and up until a few weeks ago it still was. The guy swore he didn't want to be with her, but yet there was pictures on his phone of her, she was in his top 8, and he even had a pic on his page where they were together... I felt the same way when we had first met and told him to get back with her if it was like that, but he swore they were only friends... yeah yeah yeah! sure... we dated for more than a year, and up until I decided to call it quits.. I still felt like i had to compete with someone for his attention....
MY advice: Don't be as stupid as I was for so long, and being that you've only been with him for two months..it's safe to say you can quit now with minimal damage to your emotions.. You shouldn't have to worry about who's "lurking in the shadows", or standing in one.
Leave him... it's been really hard for me.. but i just don't pick up his calls, don't text back.. and tell myself that I will not be disappointed by myself...There's too many worth the while people to worry about one.. who's not really worrying about you!
Good luck in whatever you decide!
2006-12-14 15:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by law-inspired 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not over reacting, but you two are both still too young. That is sort of the behavior to be expected at that age. I'm not saying that it should be tolerated, but it should be expected. You are both still growing and exploring everything around you. You especially, your only 15. If you don't like the way he is acting then leave him. There are many other "boys" out there who might treat you a little better.
2006-12-14 16:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by locowherto 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A better question would be, "do I need a boyfriend now?"
You're only 15! You have more important things to be concerened about, like school, friends and growing up, than to be worried about a boyfried who may be cheating on you.
Trust me, you're not going to miss out on anything, unless you consider drama, unnecessary pressure, and possible pregnancy to be something you can't afford to miss. Being in a relationship is hard. Enjoy your teenage years. This is the time you're supposed to be developing and finding out who you are, not losing yourself in someone else.
2006-12-15 08:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by Reality check 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, that's alot of adult drama for a 15 year old.
You're not over reacting or under reacting.....
the truth is....no 15 yr. old needs to be in this serious of a relationship. You're going to harden before you have a chance to really appreciate a relationship, this is guy already starting it.
2006-12-14 15:48:40 · answer #4 · answered by ▒♥▒♥▒♥▒♥▒™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not overreacting. If you saw that on her page 2 days ago & it's a comment about her being in his bed. Even if he's not sleeping with her, he obviously wants to. Something is fishy.
2006-12-14 15:42:43 · answer #5 · answered by Jaysangl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him the satisfaction of having both of you. Are you on his myspace with similar phrases?? Probably not because she is probably a bit older and has more experience. Leave him and show him that you have self esteem and you can replace him with someone who will appreciate you.
2006-12-14 15:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by tellme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no . he needs 2 have respect 4 u . i had the same problem with my boyfriend he was telling this girl how pretty she was leaving picture comments and all of dat and i got really mad so u need 2 talk 2 him about it i did and he never did it again i hope this helps
2006-12-14 15:46:01 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ tweety ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!! you are NOT over reacting. it is not a wrong thing that you are jealous, either. im also pretty sure he has feelings for her. you should confront him and if he denies it but keeps posting those kind of comments, then you should dump him. also, ask why he has those pics of her. if he has none or less of you, then you should dump him. thats a sign of a bad relationship. DUMP HIM!!
2006-12-14 15:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by xoxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no. If my boyfriend ever said that to another woman we would be having a SERIOUS conversation. After that, I would decide if he was the person I REALLY wanted to be with. Imagine if another girl had posted this question.....see what I mean???
You like him. You want everything to be good. I don't think everything IS good. He sounds like a player, oa at least that he is still interested in her. Please take care of yourself.
2006-12-14 15:45:59 · answer #9 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not over reacting. But if he still wants her he should go get her and leave you alone and let you get on with your life. Tell him you know and to kiss off.
2006-12-14 15:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by Sunkist3599 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋